tanbark813 Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 The girl was at Disneyland for crying out loud...right, Tan? Yes. She was supposed to be back on a Wednesday (I believe it was a Wednedday.. doesn't really matter) at a specific time to pick up her stuff. She was the one that suggested the time. I made sure I was around but she never showed. So when I finally contacted her it was then that she texted that she ended up staying an extra day. it's one thing to seek some sort of revenge on a lying, cheating, manipulative spouse Well she was certainly a liar, and possibly (probably) a cheater. I'm not sure why you're making a distinction between spouse and gf. I take my relationships seriously and basically view a gf as a trial period for a wife. So disrespect, dishonesty, infidelity, etc... is still taken seriously (for me anyway).
Star Gazer Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 So disrespect, ... is still taken seriously (for me anyway). I agree with this part. And I pay attention to the disrespect men have paid others in previous relationships. The way a relationship ends, and particularly how he handles and reacts to it, has a lot of bearing on how the guy will be in other relationships...particularly if he doesn't rid himself of anger. Hence all the more reason to rely on karma...
tanbark813 Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 I agree with this part. And I pay attention to the disrespect men have paid others in previous relationships. The way a relationship ends, and particularly how he handles and reacts to it, has a lot of bearing on how the guy will be in other relationships. Are you the same in every relationship? I doubt it. I know I'm not. Cast judgment if you want but I've never cheated on a gf.
Star Gazer Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 Are you the same in every relationship? I doubt it. I know I'm not. Cast judgment if you want but I've never cheated on a gf. That's a low blow.
tanbark813 Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 That's a low blow. It's not intended to be an insult. I'm making the point that just because something happens in one relationship doesn't mean it will happen in another. There's a difference between an isolated occurrence and a pattern of behavior.
underpants Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 Perhaps what Tan has learned by his unfortunate encounter with that chick was that. To confront flakey and selfish behaviour early on, or to avoid such a person. If (gosh forbid) then same circumstances were to repeat themselves he could simply issue an ultimatium/warning to her as to how/when to get her stuff and the consequences of not doing it. If a person still ignored this, then I just really, personally, don't see the point in catering or bending over backwards for someone who it is over with. If they get mad, it has to be with themselves right, for not respecting their former partner? My ex still has some of my stuff, cause he wants to keep it I guess. He would return things a little here and there, it was just silly. Checking in, keeping tabs. I finally called him on it, and alot of other pooh. Funny, he still has that stuff. I really could care less and I refuse to be a hostage to a few material things. I am sure though he thinks he is the man, broke her heart and stole her stuff, yea, a real man. I consider them parting gifts, consolation prizes from the girl who wouldn't be one.
Walk Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 I had an ex I dated for a couple months tell everyone I knew that I raped him. The ONE time we had sex I was on the bottom. I never realized you could rape a man that way. Its not like I forced viagra down his throat and then cuffed him to the bed... then again, maybe he would've been a better lay if I had.
Trialbyfire Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 TBF - as someone who has cheated, I don't think I needed to be punished in such a juvenile fashion to learn a lesson and never do it again. I just don't believe two wrongs make a right, no matter what the history is. Oh no, nothing juvenile. I prefer the emotional scarring technique. An eye for an eye baby. As Tan repped...that's how I roll. I'd rather someone slit my wrists rather than have to go through with being cheated on again by someone I had loved and trusted with everything I had.
Star Gazer Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 Oh no, nothing juvenile. I prefer the emotional scarring technique. What's an example of that?
Trialbyfire Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 What's an example of that? When you've been married for five years, dated for over a year and known each other for a couple of years before that, you know the buttons to push. Let's just say that after D-day, his life went from complete freedom to a strangle-hold, with plenty of push and pull, with a final drop kick named "divorce". This only works if the cheater desperately wants you back and claims to still "love" you.
Star Gazer Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 When you've been married for five years, dated for over a year and known each other for a couple of years before that, you know the buttons to push. Let's just say that after D-day, his life went from complete freedom to a strangle-hold, with plenty of push and pull, with a final drop kick named "divorce". This only works if the cheater desperately wants you back and claims to still "love" you. Ok, I'm confused. (Nothing new! ) That doesn't sound like "revenge" to me...it almost sounds like karma played itself out in your favor...?
Trialbyfire Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Ok, I'm confused. (Nothing new! ) That doesn't sound like "revenge" to me...it almost sounds like karma played itself out in your favor...? There you have it. Technically speaking, you could say that...
tanbark813 Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Oh sure, when she does it it's karma but when I do it it's anger. I like to call mine "instant karma" (it's gonna get ya).
Walk Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Karma is bull shyt. That's like saying he'll get what he deserves because a roving band of unicorns will viciously stab him to death some day far in the future.
Star Gazer Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Oh sure, when she does it it's karma but when I do it it's anger. I like to call mine "instant karma" (it's gonna get ya). Don't stick your angry little tongue out at me.
Trialbyfire Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Karma is bull shyt. That's like saying he'll get what he deserves because a roving band of unicorns will viciously stab him to death some day far in the future. Since unicorns only appear before virgins, this will not happen. Actually, karma is not b/s. Ask my ex...
Art_Critic Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Don't stick your angry little tongue out at me. Ahhhhh.. Your first LS spat..
allina Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Ahhhhh.. Your first LS spat.. Psh, you know it's like the third
UsernameRemoved Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 I hurt my girl when we broke up by introducing her as my ex... Although it bit me right in the ass when we got back together.
polywog Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 This is an interesting thread with all its spats, Neitzche, revenge ideas, karma, and high-road/low-road stuff. That being said, I've never actually carried out my revenge fantasies, though I've certainly had them and just Love to come up with ideas. I almost have, but whilst on the verge of carrying them out, have just pooped out. Maybe too lazy, or too goody-two-shoes... I don't know, but in the end I'm glad I didn't do them. My exes have All come crawling back at some point (we'll see if my most recent does, but I'm not holding my breath), and my turning them down has been the best revenge. I'm sympathetic to what Tan did, and got some joy out of reading it. Despite this, if I were that ex gf, I'd have demanded, aggressively, that my stuff be replaced.
Author Bree Posted June 28, 2007 Author Posted June 28, 2007 Well I've had an ex throw out all my stuff, but thats another thread, that i do need to create by the way to update everyone. But anyway, it sucked. Point is he f*ed so much up through the yrs. and I was always nice. He broke promises, I kept mine, he told lies, I was honest no matter the consequence. I guess you could say I'm just a woman scorned.
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