Pixie-Minx Posted June 25, 2007 Posted June 25, 2007 Here is the story: i really would appreciate peoples honest advice, i want to know if i was in the wrong? met my ex in aug06, love at first sight, whirl wind romance. supported me through a misscarraige Starts to stop meeting me and my friends, calls my friends common. November 06 he splits with me 2 days before we are due to move into a flat, cancells the flat leave me homeless. within one week he begs me back saying i needed to belive inmyself more. December 06 he has spent the month telling me what to wear who to talk to basically being very cold, flips out with a knife and eventually cancelling on my family at xmas, i split with him 2 days before xmas, he doesnt care and i begin to beg him back, we argue all over xmas and i think its over, suddenly come new year he wants me back. Feb07, he leavings having cheated, turns out he cheated at the start too ( i find this out cos he send me to the clinic to get tested!) i spend 2 months NC while he is causually dating and am starting to recover. April07 bump into him in town, make the effort to say hey and try and clear the air, he then spends one month begging me back, he seemed so different May07 get back together all is rosey, he is lovley treats me like a princess, so happy June07 he leaves stating my recreational drug use as a problem (may i add i have done this before and he accepted it, as he wanted me back so badley, he knew i was going out to do it and didnt say a word, then flipped that i had. i said no problem i wont do it again but that wasnt enough) 1 week after split, he has spent the week with me hearing me out, day 7 he has a new girlfriend tells me he loves me and cuts me out! Accuses me of stalking him (becuase i called him to ask why none of his freinds even knew i existed after seeing them in town and asking!) when he is good he is amazing but then he does 180 and is so abusive, and take pride inm hurting me! was i wrong? did he have a legit reason? if you love someone as much as he apparently loved me and there is an issue surely you talk it out and move on, especially as i never broke his trust? i feel like if i had not gone out that night we would still be so happy?
tanbark813 Posted June 25, 2007 Posted June 25, 2007 No idea why you love this guy so much. Sounds like way too much drama. How old are you guys? Early 20's?
Author Pixie-Minx Posted June 26, 2007 Author Posted June 26, 2007 im 23 he is 22. he has just posted loads of lovey dovey pictures of him and his gf on the net....... kills me
Enema Posted June 26, 2007 Posted June 26, 2007 Were you wrong? Yep, right after November 06 when you got back together with him the first time.
alasia Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Ooh sounds just like me and my ex! Right down to the "when he's good...etc" part. My ex now delights in making me feel like crap. I get on a bus he's driving - just wanting to get on, say hi and go and sit down - and he HAS to say something like "get lost Kaz". Why he feels like he has to never, ever see me again is beyond me; he's 44 so surely he should be mature enough to be able to see me once in a while, be civil and not make a huge fuss over it? If I can manage it (and I'm only 23) then why can't he?! You know, I was reading my diary the other day (kept it for a few months while I was dating my ex; it's the only diary I've ever written but I felt like I needed someone to 'vent' my emotions while I was with him. Couldn't talk to him about how I was feeling.) and I realised we were barely together! Pretty much every argument (or even minor disagreement) we had ended up in one of us - usually him - saying we were moving out, then the next day or a few hours later we were all 'loved up' again. We split up practically every 2 weeks, it's unbelievable! Despite all that, and everything we've said & done to each other since the split, I still care about him and wish we could try again. Well actually I'm getting better - I do realise that we would never work unless he agreed to work on his issues (and he never would) and I think the main thing that bothers me isn't that I want him back; it's just that I'm upset that he doesn't want me. My pride's a bit dented. was i wrong? did he have a legit reason? if you love someone as much as he apparently loved me and there is an issue surely you talk it out and move on, especially as i never broke his trust? i feel like if i had not gone out that night we would still be so happy? I've wondered this so many times...the last time my ex said he wanted to try again and then changed his mind 2 days later (in April), he said he'd changed his mind about getting back together because I'd come downstairs that night (I'd been in bed) and shouted at him for falling asleep on the sofa. I was out of order; I admit that, but I think the mature way to deal with it would have been to talk it over once we'd both calmed down, let me apologise and leave it at that. It wasn't a big deal but that's what he turned it into. I've come to the conclusuion my ex didn't really love me at all. I don't think he's capable of caring about anyone but himself.
Trialbyfire Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Please ladies. Stop hanging onto your male drama queens. You know you can do better. No one deserves to be treated in a relationship like a convenience.
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