Author IWALH Posted June 27, 2007 Author Posted June 27, 2007 I am not posting anymore because his wife found this website and figured out who I was. So I am sure she is going to keep checking up on me to see if I have anything else to say. She wrote me an email that was like a smack in the face and a big wake up call and I have been sobbing uncontrolably for the last 10 minutes because of it. I know I have done some really really awful things, but I AM A GOOD MOTHER. I will NOT be a bad example to her. She is only 1 year old, I have time to fix myself and make better decisions. I am just in love with someone I shouldn't be and I............. never mind. There is nothing else I can say or do. I feel like the ****tiest person in the world and I have every right to be feeling this way. I don't know what I am doing.... I don't know what the f*ck I am doing.... What have I done..... I betrayed him.... I betrayed her.... SHHIIIIITTTTTTTTTT.
NoIDidn't Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 (((IWAHL))) I'm so sorry you are hurting. Please remember to take care of yourself and your little one.
Onelife Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 I am not posting anymore because his wife found this website and figured out who I was. So I am sure she is going to keep checking up on me to see if I have anything else to say. She wrote me an email that was like a smack in the face and a big wake up call and I have been sobbing uncontrolably for the last 10 minutes because of it. I know I have done some really really awful things, but I AM A GOOD MOTHER. I will NOT be a bad example to her. She is only 1 year old, I have time to fix myself and make better decisions. I am just in love with someone I shouldn't be and I............. never mind. There is nothing else I can say or do. I feel like the ****tiest person in the world and I have every right to be feeling this way. I don't know what I am doing.... I don't know what the f*ck I am doing.... What have I done..... I betrayed him.... I betrayed her.... SHHIIIIITTTTTTTTTT. I am so sorry.... I hope you won't have to stop posting. We all have been here to support and get support for each other. I hate for you to have to give up this haven while you probably need it most. I know it helps me going through the rough time, still does. Maybe you can reborn with the new name. Don't let anyone take your freedom away from you. Well...hope this can help you some. At least something to take your mind away from this strees. When things go wrong as they sometimes will; When the road you're trudging seems all uphill; When the funds are low, and the debts are high And you want to smile, but have to sigh; When care is pressing you down a bit- Rest if you must, but do not quit. Success is failure turned inside out; The silver tint of the clouds of doubt; And you can never tell how close you are It may be near when it seems so far; So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit- It's when things go wrong that you must not quit. - Unknown Don't quit searching for your happiness. And for your daughter's too. Best wishes!
torranceshipman Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 I hope you don't stop posting...we all want to see you do OK, and get thru this, and you've got mates here...if his W reads all your posts, well, she'll know exactly what role he played and that you aren't the one and only bad guy here....and that her H really manipulated the hell out of both of you. Hope you are OK, lots of hugs...
whichwayisup Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 You know what though? I'm sure her coming here and reading your posts was a big wake up call for as well. Now she gets to see what has been going on behind her back. Her H has been lying to her, lying to you and now BOTH of you don't know what's what. Keep posting anyway. Post in different places to get your post count up, give advice and then hopefully your post count will be high enough and you'll get PM access. I hope you're doing better today...
Art_Critic Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 I am not posting anymore because his wife found this website and figured out who I was. So I am sure she is going to keep checking up on me to see if I have anything else to say. . Maybe that should be a signal to you that what you are doing is wrong and stop doing it.. Sometimes we need a wakeup such as this to see the light.. The light is that he is married and at this time since she knows and she knows about this place as well you are now hiding.. You are hiding.. that alone should tell you that you know what you are doing isn't right... Time to put the big person pants on and act like a grownup who knows right from wrong
Author IWALH Posted June 27, 2007 Author Posted June 27, 2007 Maybe that should be a signal to you that what you are doing is wrong and stop doing it.. Sometimes we need a wakeup such as this to see the light.. The light is that he is married and at this time since she knows and she knows about this place as well you are now hiding.. You are hiding.. that alone should tell you that you know what you are doing isn't right... Time to put the big person pants on and act like a grownup who knows right from wrong Hmm, you were a lot nicer to me 2 years ago when you used to reply to my posts (I think it was you.... you live/lived in the ATL area, right?). Do you know what's been going on? Do you know the things he's been promising and what he's been saying about his marriage and wife? I post a lot on this website, but not all.... Yes, I am very ashamed for some of the things I have done.... but if I wasn't convinced that he was telling me the ABSOLUTE TRUTH about everything, I wouldn't have done any of them. If it were up to ME I would keep posting on this website. But other people in my life don't want me to and don't think it's a good idea so I am trying to limit what I say. I am certainly not hiding.
Art_Critic Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 Hmm, you were a lot nicer to me 2 years ago when you used to reply to my posts (I think it was you.... you live/lived in the ATL area, right?). My post was being nice.. I was posting from the fact that you are going into hiding.. Therefore that shows me that you believe what you are doing is wrong.. I was posting my opinion on your situation as it sits today.. not 2 years ago.. If you are still an OW after 2 years then it should tell you what your continued future with this married guy will be like.. Just my 2 penny's.. not trying to stir anything up.. I was hoping you might see something differently with these new recent events.. When is the straw going to be heavy enough to break your back and see the light with him ?
Author IWALH Posted June 27, 2007 Author Posted June 27, 2007 My post was being nice.. I was posting from the fact that you are going into hiding.. Therefore that shows me that you believe what you are doing is wrong.. I was posting my opinion on your situation as it sits today.. not 2 years ago.. If you are still an OW after 2 years then it should tell you what your continued future with this married guy will be like.. Just my 2 penny's.. not trying to stir anything up.. I was hoping you might see something differently with these new recent events.. When is the straw going to be heavy enough to break your back and see the light with him ? I wasn't the OW for a while. I was in 2005 for a while and then I have been again for about 8 months but.... I don't know. If he doesn't call me tonight like he said he was going to then THAT will be the last straw.
Art_Critic Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 I hope you realize by now that things are not going to change and that you are doomed to a life ( or years ) of drama such as this.. ( Till you finally tell him to take a hike ) All he is good for is drama The guy is a chump.. If you had given any single guy half the chances you have given this guy I would believe that you would be happy and in a good relationship by now..
scaredinlove Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Tells you likes, wants to stay married to her but asks you to wait..? What for? This sounds pretty much like my situation. IW you are in the bench, if she tires out than ,and only than he will call you into the game. You have two choices : 1- accept your situation as it is (like I did) 2- Or walk out and if he really leaves he will come after you. He is on the fence and wants you to wait. I have been living this for 10 months now. I decided to stay for lovr,curiosity and lack of will power to leave. You got make your choice. If you decide to wait around.Don't beat yourself over it, try to enjoy your time with him and have no hope that he will ever leave.False hope will only cause pain.Live for the moment. It is a hell of a situation, most times I am fine some days i go crazy, but I chose it . The important is to make your choice. It is easier that way. Good luck with whatever you choose.
child_of_isis Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 This MM had multiple affairs in the past? If so, he is most likely a pro with the lies.
Maags Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 id wait it out honestly...you know hes gonna divorce her and that will just give you more time with him...give it some time, be patient with it and the relationship can continue. I would say look for another man. This whole situation sounds like mine, obsessive. You could do better with another, even "hotter" man who is single and wants to have a life with you. You don't need this sh**.
lonelybird Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Yes, seems it dooms to self-destruction. If he is a serial cheater, then when you really can be with him and be his wife, he will still cheat on you, with another hot woman. sad, but true
Seen_It_All Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 He told me "Of COURSE I am lying to her! I am lying to her about you so I can BE with you!" Which, of course, made me feel guilty.And THIS is the guy you're obsessed over? Some lying sack of SH*IT that spends his day LYING and MANIPULATING his wife into some kind of false reality? THIS is the guy you've set your sights on? I wouldn't let this pig shine my shoes. Get to a therapist.
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