joel Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 lets say right if a guy mid 20's has no car at all or even access to a car(can't borrow parents or friends car)-they have to bus everytime and meet up everytime at some central location in dwtn vancouver -how many girls goin really really date the guy and maybe later on have him as a bf or even date him for long. i'm guessing at most he'll get is like 2 dates or so called hanging out. i'm been goin to school -college for a good chunk of his time. i don't make much either, and can't find work related to my field, so i'm going back to school. i was working in dead end -warehouse, call centre rep, merchandiser jobs that didn;t pay much -minimum 9-10/hr. i took computer for a yr , but didn't like it and also couldn't do a lot of the troubleshooting and complicated IT tech support work. i also went to business management and have a diploma. i knew some parents who bought their kids cars , or helped em pay for their insurance and even gas at times. but with me if i were to get a car i would have to pay for everything, the car , the gas, the insruance and even fixing the car up. it all adds up , and also considering i don;t make much. so what do u guys think . a guy with no car or even access to a car. i bus like everywhere and anywhere. i never drive. got my license but no car. i thinking my schooling is more important than getting some 4k car. i jsut don;t want to do the dead end and low paying jobs for long. i met one girl off the net before. she made a deal about myself not having a ride. "when are you going to get a car", "how much do u have for a car" . lol funny thing i bused to her area to see her. her area already had all the amenties (theatre, plenty of restaurants, shopping center) to be the richmond centre area in bc. i live in vancouver,bc.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 Do you have a bicycle? There are alot of bike paths in Van from what I remember. Maybe you could meet someone who also likes to bike ride? You said you're in school? Are there women you'd like to meet there? I'm sure there are alot of coffee places or places to go for lunch or a drink nearby that you both can walk to. And 4K? I have sold my past vehicles for much less than that which would have had no problem getting from point A to point B. If you're already at the bar, just enjoy yourself meeting women there and not get into anything ongoing if they give you the impression that it won't work if you don't have a car. Give yourself some time, save some $$, get that car and then start dating... or meet someone who doesn't give a hoot how you get around town. good luck!
oavada Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 well, i mean youre not going to be dating high-class or middle class professionals, but im sure there are some girls that would be willing to date a working class guy like yourself...get a job, maintain it and save up and get yourself a car...it definitely helps to have a car no doubt.
ahah2322 Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 well it will be good for you to have a car.. it brings alot of convenience. but nice girls would understand and not make a fuss about it if you're a nice guy. after all, we don't need cars to prove our worth. don't feel pressured and study hard.
high_boost Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 your gonna end up like the 40yr old virgin if you dont get a car brotha. just get yourself a beater.
katiebour Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 I had neither car nor license until I turned 26. Both of my exes did drive, and encouraged me to drive, and I admit it put a strain on the relationship that I was so dependent. If you meet a girl who's in the same situation as you (no car), then she'll understand having to bus around and it wouldn't be a problem. If you're looking for a serious relationship with a settled person, then you'd better show that you're dependable instead of dependent. My '94 Olds Cutlass Supreme cost $1000. I only drive it when I need it, so I pay maybe $20 a month in gas. My folks did help out with insurance- when I get on my feet financially I'll get my own. My b/f can't afford insurance and hasn't had it for years. Not a good situation but I can't even pay my own and wouldn't have any if not for my folks, so I'm not in a position to argue about it. Save up 1k for a car, and then commit to putting $150 in the bank every month for gas and insurance. It shouldn't cost you more than that, I think. Owning a car, paying insurance, etc, is a good way to demonstrate fiscal responsibility- always a desirable characteristic in a mate. I would date a guy without a car- I've been there and I understand that it happens. But I'd have to really like the guy- nobody wants to be someone else's taxi with benefits.
cutegirl Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 Well, I'm a woman who makes 6 figures a year and I drive a Mercedes yet my bf doesn't "really" have a car right now. He has a 86 corolla that's worth like $300 but it's parked permanently in my garage cause he has no insurance on it and the tires might pop anytime... Personally I don't CARE if a guy doesn't have a car because I prefer guys who don't have a lot of money. I am competent and successful enough to provide for myself and the guy if need be. I do not NEED a man to take care of me. He borrows my car a lot... Sometimes it does bug me, but in the overall scheme of things I don't care if my guy doesn't have a car. My bf is 27 btw and I'm 29. He doesn't have a car or a job and doesn't go to school... lol I still love him though. I don't like overly ambitious guys... I don't like guys with flashy cars, especially if they think that I will be "impressed." That tells me that they are insulting my intelligence and underestimating me. They do not fathom to believe that a woman, such as me, could possibly be so successful and make a lot of money on her own. They think I would actually be impressed by their cars or need something financially from them, which I don't.
Phoebe Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 Having your own car instead of having to rely on public transport is obviously more convenient, but I can't imagine that if a girl really likes you that it should be that big of a deal. If it is you have to ask yourself if that's the kind of girl you want to be dating anyway. Joel, you're right in thinking that schooling is more important than a car. To my way of thinking a guy who is actively trying to improve himself is more attractive than a guy with a car but no ambition.
Lucky555 Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 Um here it goes, I recently went out with this guy who didn't have a car and i drove him around MAJOR TURNOFF. But i don't live in the city at all so to go anywhere you have to have a car. HOWEVER, i have read that you are going to school and make very little money, its typical with college, but your actually doing something with your life! So major points. There is nothing wrong with working your way through school and trying to promote yourself. You can still meet attractive girls, i am learning its trial and error. Just go and meet different people and if there is interest give your number. Once you get someone that you would like to get to know better tell her that you can meet up with her at some place. Then get to know her and talk and see how it goes. At some point you can tell her all that your doing and lay the cards on the table. If she doesn't show interest well keep seeing other people. You have just as much advantage as any other guy, Trust me i have seen guys with a good job and nice pay check, and they can still be jerks. I recently went out with a guy without a car..but it fell through not because he didn't have a car and not because he had a daughter, it was because i found out he was doing drugs and partying a lot at the age of 30. I mean i was willing to give this guy a chance and he blew it basically.. because of his lifestyle it doesn't mesh well with me. So there you go having perspective coming from a NICE girls mind.
jcster Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 Cars in the city are a pain in the butt. They are expensive to maintain, park, gas and then you still have to get through the traffic. I bet a lot of women that you are going to meet in the downtown area aren't going to be drivers, or if they are, they will completely understand why you don't have a car. It wouldn't be a big deal to me if a guy I liked didn't have a car.
roxy_1980 Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 Let me offer another perspective. Maybe it's not the lack of a car that is deterring these girls. It's maybe the fact that you seem to be a professional student. You say that you finished one degree. Didn't get work, started another. Didn't like it/ wasn't good at it, did another degree. That's alot of school. And alot of debt no doubt. Women in their mid-20s are starting to look to settle down. They are looking for financial stability. The lack of the car is just the latest symptom in their book. They see a guy who can't hold a career. You seem to be getting a few dates, then they bail, right? How quickly are you revealing your educational background? The second date? I'd opt to simply tell them that you have a diploma in Business and leave at that until later in the relationship. Much, much later. If they ask why you don't have a car at your age, tell them that you're saving for the future. (It's not a lie, but it's evasive enough to work.)
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