Author Krytellan Posted June 24, 2007 Author Posted June 24, 2007 Aww, Krytie, I'm sorry. I knew this would come eventually, and you did too. But I promise you it's for the best. I've told you this before - you were in a transition period. The next one will be "it" - I'm sure of it. You're too freakin' awesome not to find that perfect girl. Thanks sweetie. If you didn't live 4 hours away, I'd totally stalk you (hmm... I do have vacation time) *OK, I've had a few beers, so the thoughts are flowing freely* Anyhoo, I just got back from the ole solo-karaoke. First time in a year. It was fun. I didn't get as schnickered as I expected, but I sang way more than I expected, so I guess in the global scale that balances out. I realized that in the last year I have lost my chops. I gotta fix that. Thoughts for the evening: I have to say I didn't think about her much, but as TTSP said, I may still be in the surreal part. But you know, I think I'm starting to realize how apart we always were, cuz as I sat at the bar chatting it up with many strangers, I realized we had never done anything like that. This is totally sick, but I have to be honest, I found myself thinking of my ex-wife more, because despite all of the trash I have talked about her, we were the absolute best bar/karaoke/bowling buddies. There's a lot to be said for the loss of that. I'm convinced that the loss of my gf will be far more of a day-to-day loss than a deep-down emotional loss. That's the type of relationship we had, and we often spent Monday-Thursday apart anyway, and on the weekends she was asleep by 10. Ahh well. I'm trying too hard to write, so I must be done. It really is nice to know that with all of the sarcasm I have hurled in the last 6 months, that there are still people who can entertain my loss for a while. Thanks guys. I have never posted on here as a single person before.
sb129 Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 Sorry to hear about your break up K. I have heard the tone of uncertainty in some of your previous posts, so I am not too surprised, but that doesn't make it any easier! OUt of interest, what is it that she thinks you "want". And how come she can't give it to you? Sounds like a cop out to me.
whichwayisup Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 Sorry to hear that K. You're handling it well and are keeping it in perspective too. Sure, you'll be sad, and miss her companionship...But I think (maybe) the sign was her backing off and not as affectionate in and out of bed with you. Atleast it ended now instead of later when feelings could have been deeper. Enjoy being single!
Author Krytellan Posted June 24, 2007 Author Posted June 24, 2007 Thanks WWIU. I will try to enjoy it. I'm not in a hurry to go on a date, that's for sure. And God bless the internet... I can listen to my hometown WXYT sports radio and hear about my Tigers all day while 2500 miles away. Out of interest, what is it that she thinks you "want". And how come she can't give it to you? Sounds like a cop out to me. Well, I made it clear to her what I wanted. Unfortunately, the weight of what I wasn't getting was surpassing the weight of what I was getting. Things like emotional intimacy, focused attention, and *ahem* sex. I would normally say it's a copout, but with the way I treated her, I can for once in my life say that it wasn't me... it had to be her. Unless, of course, she started finding me physically unattractive. That's possible I suppose.
sb129 Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 Well, I made it clear to her what I wanted. Unfortunately, the weight of what I wasn't getting was surpassing the weight of what I was getting. Things like emotional intimacy, focused attention, and *ahem* sex. I would normally say it's a copout, but with the way I treated her, I can for once in my life say that it wasn't me... it had to be her. Unless, of course, she started finding me physically unattractive. That's possible I suppose. I think it sounds like a copout- but in a way that means you aren't in the wrong, she is. Glad you are being positive.
Art_Critic Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 Sorry to hear about it Krytellan .... Another is just around the corner...
Star Gazer Posted June 25, 2007 Posted June 25, 2007 Thanks sweetie. If you didn't live 4 hours away, I'd totally stalk you (hmm... I do have vacation time) Thoughts for the evening: I have to say I didn't think about her much, but as TTSP said, I may still be in the surreal part. But you know, I think I'm starting to realize how apart we always were, cuz as I sat at the bar chatting it up with many strangers, I realized we had never done anything like that. This is totally sick, but I have to be honest, I found myself thinking of my ex-wife more, because despite all of the trash I have talked about her, we were the absolute best bar/karaoke/bowling buddies. There's a lot to be said for the loss of that. I'm convinced that the loss of my gf will be far more of a day-to-day loss than a deep-down emotional loss. That's the type of relationship we had, and we often spent Monday-Thursday apart anyway, and on the weekends she was asleep by 10. Stalk away, darlin'!! How are you feeling today, K? ((HUG)) I agree with you that this breakup will have more of a day-to-day effect than anything that sends you to bed crying at night. It won't be a cake walk, but you'll be fine - I know it. I'm not surprised that this breakup caused you to think of your ex-wife and the things you had in common. I think the breakup with your GF only reinforced for you what kind of relationship you want, need, and deserve.
norajane Posted June 25, 2007 Posted June 25, 2007 But you know, I think I'm starting to realize how apart we always were, cuz as I sat at the bar chatting it up with many strangers, I realized we had never done anything like that. This is totally sick, but I have to be honest, I found myself thinking of my ex-wife more, because despite all of the trash I have talked about her, we were the absolute best bar/karaoke/bowling buddies. There's a lot to be said for the loss of that. I had a moment of realization like that about my ex. Suddenly, I realized how good I felt to be free to meet someone that I could share more of my personality with, someone who was a good match with me on the things I like to do that my ex just didn't. It's liberating.
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