Lucky555 Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 guy is interested in me however here is some background on what i am like, I have a career set in stone basically pursuing masters degree and eventually doctorate. I don't smoke, drink socially, want a relationship, don't do drugs. I am relaxed most of the time, spend a lot of time studying for exams and medical stuff. Work part time and have good relationship with my family. Guy that is interested, does drugs, has a daughter, 30 and is single. He has his own place, full time job, wants to buy a house, does not have a car. Please tell me i have something wrong with me diagnose me with something because i don't know why but i am insanely attracted to this guy. He is really sweet, he offered to help me study this weekend, wants to hang out, said he wants friends but if we want more it could happen. We just both like each other ALOT! I am clueless on whether to leave it alone and keep things cool or to go with it and find out more about him. He was honest with me from the beginning, which i give him tons of points for. Its undeniable of what i feel and he tells me he feels attracted to me and he pursues me. So what do i do. he has his own place and takes care of himself. Oh by the way hes hot!!
Curmudgeon Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 Guy that is interested, does drugs... That says it all!
Steveto Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 He seems like he's an ok guy especially if he is upfront with everything. If it were me, I would think twice about getting involved with someone that has a child. That is a completely different lifestyle. As for the drugs thing..well, there are people that will outright stop the relationship based on that alone, but for me..it doesn't matter as long as he doesn't do it for emotional support. Drugs, like alcohol are used as an escape tool - also it wastes a lot of money if you are addicted.. Make sure that this isn't the case. If he doesn't use Meth, Cocaine, Heroin, Crank, Crack, WET or any injectable drug, I think you'd be ok. I've never heard anyone get highly addicted to weed, hash, E (though E is usually laced), magic mushrooms I don't want to get into a huge debate about drugs...you need to have tried them to say anything like you need to vote to have any right to complain about the government. Well, the no car thing...I got a problem with that..heh..I consider a car to be one of the worst investments a person can make, but at the same time you can encounter decreasing factor where it affects the efficiency of your lifestyle therefore, can lead to earning less money, less social interaction, stress on family etc etc.. If you want to do all the driving..be my guest hehe
Author Lucky555 Posted June 23, 2007 Author Posted June 23, 2007 thanks everyone for your response. This guy i already said we would be friends, he wants me to got out with him and his friends socially. However, he pursues me. So i am thinking that he obviously does not have his life together and i am putting mine together to achieve what i want. Now, I don't want to hurt him and its quite a strong attraction but if he asks why i can't see him i will say that its because we are in two different places in our lives. I guess i liked having this mysterious bad boy liking me that attracted me as i step back from the emotional aspect of it. I am only 22 so i guess when i was looking for affection he was there. He does weed by the way, i can't seem to find a guy that doesn't! Its obvious that i overlooked this and was blind. The whole concept of the guy liking me and "wanting" to spend time with me flattered me since the guy i was seeing before never initiated anything and was so distant and this guy is so attentive. The fact that he had a daughter scared me, because i am no place to want a child but this was completely casual so far. I am glad that i can be his friend, but i KNOW I HAVE TO KEEP BE FRIENDLY and not see him as more than just a friend SO DIFFICULT. The way he looks at me its just a lot. But he has had a lot more experience with relationships than me since hes 30. ugh but got to do what i got to do right.
freakygal78 Posted June 25, 2007 Posted June 25, 2007 Just be careful about the pot smoking. I am with a guy at the moment who I instantly fell for and disregarded his comment about his casual pot use. Even though at the moment it is more like daily use *rolls eyes*. I am especially mad at myself considering I was married to a 'secret' marijuana user in my early 20's which ultimately destroyed the relationship. My current guy is highly intelligent and has a great job car, money etc although the pot makes him emotionally unavailable a lot of the time. It started off typically with him being charming and attentive but then as time went on he became a bit more withdrawn and distant. I'm not saying everyone is like that but just proceed with caution. Hell have a fun fling with him it might be a fun experience but having a kid is sure to mean a different type of r'ship also.
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