menikmati Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 Someone please help... My girlfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now. I have known her for 5 years, We were just friends at first but then it became more. We dated first for 6 months, then I went off to college and we broke it off. I was very upset at this because I did not understand why she did that. She told me I needed to "have the college experience" I get that now, but at the time I was extremely upset and angry and did not talk with her for 2 years. We started talking again 2 years later and hit it off right from the start. We now have been dating for 8 months. Things have been going pretty well, we do not have sex, she wants to wait and I totally respect that. We still do fool around, or did I should say. Just light stuff, fingering/jerking off. but now all of sudden she is so uncomfortable around me. She says she is comfortable around everyone else BUT me. It is really confusing me, I do not understand how she can be uncomfortable around me. I treat her very nicely... she I have never made a negative comment to her about the way she looks because she is beautiful! She is always saying how she hates the way she looks and how she thinks she is fat, but she really is not! it is really driving me crazy that I cannot get close to my girlfriend because of this! I love her and care about her more than anything in the world, but it upsets me when this happens, I dont get it... Please HELP!
azianpride143 Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 Have you ever told her how you really felt? Despite her looks she may be insecure inside. Some reassurances may help. It's always good to have your emotions out and be able to communicate how you feel with each other openly. For me, communication is key to a successful relationship. This will give you an understanding of where you stand with her.
Author menikmati Posted June 23, 2007 Author Posted June 23, 2007 I tell her how I feel. I tell her that I love her, I tell her that I care about her and that she is my one and only. I agree communication is key in a relationship. When I bring this up she gets very defensive and tells me to just leave her alone. I feel like leaving is such a coward thing to do, but this in turn just pisses her off even more. Maybe I am just thinking about this too much? I care about her a lot and am just in awe at how she can thing some of the things about herself! I wish she could see herself like I see her, which is a beautiful and stunning woman.
Jig Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 jsut wondering, do you happen to have pictures of other girls up or watch porn? Because if you do it might be making her feel like she is not good enough for you.
azianpride143 Posted June 24, 2007 Posted June 24, 2007 The problem is the fact that she wont let you get past her shell. She's afraid of getting hurt. She doesn't realize by doing this she's isolating herself from the one person that cares about her. There's not much you can do if she's not willing to trust you with her emotions. If she won't open up and you can't get past that. I wouldn't know what to say to you. It's like you've hit a brick wall and only way in is that drawbridge that can be only opened from the inside. In the end the relationship will never move forward and will die a sad death. You have shown her how much you love her. It's up to her to return the love back. If she doesn't what are you supposed to do? You have a right to be loved as well. It is up to you to stay in a one sided relationship or you go on to the next and eventually find the one that will make you happy. You take the lessons you've learned from one relationship and make it better for the next.
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