Dreams about cheating.

[Walk]

I keep having dreams about my ex-husband. I got divorced 4 years ago, and we've been split over 5 years. Why am I dreaming about him? And not in a feel good, happy dream either... These suck. Its always the same theme, different characters.. only thing constant is the ex.

 

Starts out that I'm dating or interested in some guy, I'll be waiting for the guy I like to show up, and out pops the ex. Leaving me with this feeling that I'm cheating on him. Always like I'm doing something wrong by dating someone else. Why the heck am I having these dreams? We haven't spoken in years. I don't want anything to do with the ex. Even in my dreams I'm resentful that he's there and I just want him to dissappear from my life for good. But he won't go away. He lingers... I can't get away from him.

 

This last dream was disturbing... I'm hanging out with a bunch of people I used to know a long time ago and I'm crushing on one of the guys (who I used to have a crush on long long ago). Out o the blue, the ex appears, and makes himself at home in the group. I ignore him, but he won't go away. Doesn't talk to me... just there... far enough away that I can't get rid of him, but close enough that he's always noticeable.

 

In my dream I end up getting it on with this old crush.. and I felt creeped out by the whole thing. Like I was cheating on the ex.. or something. I felt disgusted with myself. Mad at the ex. I wake up, and I'm flooded with all these bad feelings toward myself and the ex.

 

Why do I have these dreams? I'm not cheating on anyone. I don't want to. I don't have "feelings" for some else. I don't even talk to other men. But I keep having the same dream over and over, for nearly 6 months now.. and before that I've had them, just not so frequently as now.

 

Anyone have any ideas how to get these to stop? I'm waking up feeling like I just killed someone. I don't really want to talk to my bf about it. I'm afraid he'll think I still have feelings for my ex. But I had to tell someone. I'm going out of my mind with this... And why the hell am I dreaming about having sex with someone I knew over 15 years ago?

[Lauriebell82]

It doesn't necessarily mean you want to have sex or cheat with your ex. It could mean a number of different things actually. How are things going with your bf? Do you guys ever talk about getting married or taking your relationship to the next level? If your relationship is moving in that direction, then you may be getting scared about getting married again, so your subconscience is driving you nuts.

 

Just because you are having dreams about your ex doesn't mean you want him back or still have feelings for him. He's a part of your past, and past experiences are what drive a lot of our dreams. I really wouldn't worry about it, it doesn't mean that you want your ex back or that you love your bf less. Your just feeling guilty because you don't want to think about your ex bf. It probably has to do a lot with the status of your current relationship.