funkybassplayer Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 Why do i get these up and down feeling of freedom then extreem sadness! i really missing the ex, but she was just so h..maintenace. But i loved her and the kids, and now after 2 weeks after the split she got a new guy. ^ weeks on, i have sent back her stuff. and not been in contact as she said that she will contact me, as her new guy doent like it (understandable) I Called about 2 weeks ago, she was pleased to chat with me and we spent an hour on the phone. i was looking for some kind of closure, but i just said that i missed them, but slowly moving on and had a couple of dates sorted. I dont know why i said it, (but it was true) Anyway since i have sent back all her stuff, and not been in contact, but i so miss them all. Its really getting me down again. i was fine for a week, thought i was getting better, then last two days have been feeling crap. I still feel that i want to email her my thoughts, for me really, but not sure if its a good thing. Just 3 months ago we were talking about kids, marrige and me selling and moving there, but she would'nt divorce her hubby, so i felt i could'nt move forward with her. She ended it. Im going to write down now things that i never liked in hope that it will help me 1) was a bad mum, left her kids while she went out clubbing 2) said that i should be over my dads death 3) If i spent a day extra with a friend instead of seeing her sahe would gove me hell 4) i had to hear her tell me that at clubs guys would hit on her and squeeze her arse all the time 5) She said her hubby was a head case, he just seemed angry to me, and text her as long as you get whet you want nothing else mattered 6) she seemed to get off on the fact that her hubby was not over her 7) she would'nt divorce him 8) she was very demanding and never thought about how i felt 9) on xmas eve i was two hour late and she went mad at me because she could have gone out 10) If i sided with her oldest kid, she would go nuts 11) Wanted sex when it suited her 12) If i never called she would ;ose it and check up on me 13) Was always sleepy and depressed alot 14) After she dumped me, i felt used as she wanted me to stay friends with the promise of visits to the kids and her coming down to c me. A week later new man then bye bye rich. 15) I remember once i asked did her ex hubby ever hit her, she said no he pussed me when i was trying to go out (again i guess clubbing) 16) a heavy wine drinker 17) she would say if you cant make it its fine (ldr) then i would say ill leave it for this week, and she would get angry and demand i come up......really! thats just what i can think of from the top of my head! But god i miss her! She was a great looking chick.
whichwayisup Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 It's okay to miss her and what you two had, but from the sounds of it, she is a selfish person who doesn't put her kids first. That and how quickly she's moved on, found someone else. Again, thinking of herself, not her children. You miss how she made you feel, but ask yourself this, IS all the drama and high maitenance about her, worth it??? My guess is no.... Try to keep busy, and just know that you are better off without her.
Recommended Posts