layercakegal Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 (long sorry) ok im sure as loads of u know, or maybe u dont, i have had a problem with my 'best friend' for the past year and a half, stretching to 2 years perhaps. im really in love with him, and i cant get him out of my head. this has caused problems between us, as i think i have expected more from him than i do of a normal friend, but then again maybe im just making excuses for the way hes acting. basically he knows i like him, i dont think he knows i love him tho. all the time he seems to want to hurt me, for example he is moving away for the summer and said he wasnt bothered about meeting up with me before he left. We did meet up, but only because i basically said i wanted to see him, while he said he was 'impartial' as to whether we met up or not. I was very quiet the whole time we were together because i was mad at him (he changed the time we were meeting twice, and it ended up that we had 45 mins together). He had been in town for an hour and 15 mins before we actually met up, and had 'bumped into' one of his ex's and went for a drink, even when he sed he wudnt be able to make it in that early. When he came to leave, i had a go at him and said he was being a prat and didnt care about me, and that i was hurt that he wasnt bothered about meeting up that day.) He was on msn last night and after we had been talking a while, with me apologising for what i had said (i still felt it was true, but felt bad for saying it to him) he signed in and out a couple of times, and then when he came back on, he was on for about 20 mins when i was saying 'are u back?' 'is it fixed?' with no reply. in the end i went to bed (this was about 2am) and sent him a text saying that i wasnt sure what was goin on with his internet, that he was online but not replyin, and said i was off to watch tv (i didnt say i was goin to bed) and that i hope he had a good time over the summer, and goodnight, with about 5 kisses. no reply. he has a contract phone so its not like he cudnt text back, and i didnt say i was goin to bed so he cud of texted me later if he didnt have his phone by his computer at that moment. im just wondering what to do now. everyone says forget about him, get over him, but i cant. i have tried, this is nearly 2 years now i have liked/loved him. i dont know what to do. we keep in contact via msn because he lives in another city, and where hes going for the summer he wont have the internet, but says he'll text/call. i dont trust what he says, because he lets me down all the time. i dont know what to do because i just get upset over what he says/does all the time and i just *cant* get over him. does anyone have any advice of how to get over someone? or any advice at all really......i know i keep asking and all my family n friends are gettin sick of it too, but i need to make a definitive decision. :(:(:(:(
Author layercakegal Posted June 25, 2007 Author Posted June 25, 2007 ok im starting to think theres something wrong with me. none of my friends seem to want to hang out with me - theres the one in my above post, and then my gay best friend of 8 years. hes away at the same uni as me, but for the past....5 months or so? hes been hanging out with other people and is always too busy for me. now im not saying he cant hang out with other people, or anything like that, but hes ALWAYS with them (he lived at their house for practically a month without goin home) and whenever we do plan to hang out, when it gets to the time he forgets or is too busy or some other reason which means we cant hang out. im really sick of it, i moved home for summer about a week ago and he said hed come and see me before i moved, but didnt, even tho i rang him to say the day before i went, and also the day i moved back, but there was no answer. Then he came home last wednesday for a few days i think and never contacted me. I randomly got really upset about it tonight, and i feel like i have no friends. There must be something wrong with me, i feel like im driving people away, and i cant seem to do anything right. Nobody seems to want to be around me :(:(
Steveto Posted June 25, 2007 Posted June 25, 2007 Hey, Hang in there. I know it hurts..lots of pain..I've had some real doozys and going through something now. It's hard...and you need someone to talk to. I don't know your circumstance, but you know what..when you hit rock bottom, you know who your true friends are. It's good to talk..if you need someone to talk to, just PM me or just do what you are doing now..making a post. He seems like an irresponsible guy that doesn't like you as much as you like him. Just doing what he does is disrespectful. Don't be a doormat. You don#t deserve this. Once and for all you should tell him your true feeling because if you don't it will be a lifetime of pain where as if you tell him and he doesn't share the same feeling..at least you have closure and you can move on and say to yourself..hey..it wasn't mean't to be.
Recommended Posts