FEEDTHEID Posted June 22, 2007 Posted June 22, 2007 Ok, I feel like I might be at the end of a "whirlwind romance" Met an AMAZING woman three months ago and spent almost all of our time together since, including spending the nights almost every night for the past month and a half. Let me start out with the negatives. The person that introduced us told me she is very judgemental, which is true she is very judgemental about somethings. I was trying to put my best foot forward and ended up telling her a lie. I had gotten her a computer which she needed it was one of my old ones and I felt bad charging her for it, but at the same time I needed $ so I said it belonged to a friend and I would hook her up, I only charged $90. I know I shouldn't have lied but as we all do I wanted to put my best foot forward. She is just out of an LTR, her X was a con man. So obviously honesty is foremost on her list. I feel like **** for lying to her and she says she doesn't know if she can forgive me. SECOND, She was at my house and I had some posters in my closet that I had put up along time ago of girls in bikinis. She blew up and said she was not ok with that. While we were talking I had said I did not care about the posters (honestly I forgot they were even still up) and if it bothered her that much I would take them down. During the argument I had mentioned that I had a few magazines which I had gotten rid of after we had talked about the subject of porn. I don't like the fact that she is threatened by magazines but I respected her feelings on the subject so I did not think twice about tossing them. It was not that I was whipped and just doing whatever would make her happy even at my own happiness. I just am not really into porn and did not care. That said, my jealosy issues came up. She is still friends with her X. I did not care if they hung out because he was married. Then his wife left him and he started "I still love you... we should get back together..." She wasn't real blunt with him, instead she introduced me as a passive agressive attempt to show she had moved on. I want her to be direct and say "look this is disrespectful and needs to stop" A similar situation came up at her work with someone she had dated and she just brushed it off, and the comments still continue. She does not understand why this bothers me and has even said she gets very jealous easily. But gets mad when I bring up her X and her. The positives: I really do love her, we laugh and have a great time together (well 99% of the time). We have so much in common, and I haven't been this happy in a VERY long time. we both have kids that get along great, and baby sit for each other during the summer break. I do not want to lose her BUT I don't want to get more emotionally involved with the way things have been going only for her to say "I can't get over it we need to split."
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