tanbark813 Posted June 22, 2007 Posted June 22, 2007 I never said I expected any of those things. They're just a good sign. When you expect something it becomes less appreciated. And you already know the oral-for-oral was MC's deal, not mine.
Star Gazer Posted June 22, 2007 Posted June 22, 2007 They're just a good sign. Exactly! And all I'm saying is there are "signs" a woman uses that are "bad signs." A man would be wise to learn what those signs are (in this case, not calling the day after sex) and avoid them.
tanbark813 Posted June 22, 2007 Posted June 22, 2007 Exactly! And all I'm saying is there are "signs" a woman uses that are "bad signs." A man would be wise to learn what those signs are (in this case, not calling the day after sex) and avoid them. Yeah, but the difference is if a girl passes the door test I'm pleased but if she doesn't I don't flip out.
Krytellan Posted June 22, 2007 Posted June 22, 2007 Perhaps you two lovebirds should start your own thread and leave this poor poster's alone.
GregsBad Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 a man would be wise to make a simple 2 minute call the day after (even if *gasp* just to preserve his integrity in her eyes to enable him to hit it again in the future). Well there ya go then.
GregsBad Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 In my mind, equality means equally supporting one another emotionally. As for little "tasks", if I cook dinner, maybe you do the dishes. Or if you mow the lawn, maybe I give you a backrub. Not dinner-for-dinner, dishes-for-dishes, lawn-for-lawn, rub-for-rub, and *gasp* oral-for-oral. Can't you two mow the lawn together at the same time? She goes left to right - every other row - he goes the opposite. Sort of a 69 lawn job?
Lizzie60 Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 If anyone can help me with this issue. I have been dating this guy for a bit, we have been out on 4 dates. Since the first date all the way up to the 4th date he has called everyday. Everything seemed to be going very well. He was very attentive and most of the time we would just laugh from the beginning of our date to the end. After our 4th date I invited him in like he always did after every date. We had a glass of iced tea and chatted on my couch. Then we ended up in my bed having sex. I figured it was the 4th date so it was ok. I am not easy but I really liked him. He stayed for a couple of hours after but had to leave due to a golf tournament adn he has a huge dog(would not want that dog poopin in my house)But we layed in bed and talked he asked if I was ok, and told me I was the only girl her was dating. I also replyed that I was not seeing anyone else. The next day no phone call or respond to my text. I sent a text saying " Good luck at the tournament and hope you have a lot of fun" He did leave his watch on my bed stand, expensive one too. But no call???? I do not even think I want to talk to him agin, who does not call the day after? We are both in our early 30's and the games should be over. Can anyone add anything to this??? You need to relax... you sound waaay too clingy maybe he felt that... you had sex... maybe he felt that this was another step... and he needs time to 'think this over' I don't really know... nobody knows, except him. But to go crazy the next day because he didn't answer your text message makes you very insecure.... If I was him I would run... About the watch... my guess is that he doesn't even know he lost it in YOUR BED... Just give him some time... he might not have been able to get back to you. Call him... or text him again... and then if he doesn't answer this time... forget about him... and sell the watch on Ebay... hahaha
GregsBad Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 If a guy doesnt call after sex, you're right, it doesnt make him a bad guy. He's not being understanding of a women's need for reassurance and that he is hurting the women, he's not being sensitive and thoughtful enough just to give a 2 min call to say hi and thanks for last night, but yea it doesnt mean he is a bad/evil person, not at all. A person who is not thoughtful is not a bad person, but not necessarily a good person either. And by good, i just mean it in the context of dating.... I don't know ... SG really hit home - to me - made a lot of sence too. If I don't get to hit it again unless I call the next day? ... I'm callin'
GregsBad Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 TB and SG - I gotta warn you two - you might get some violation points if the mod busts you for hijakin' Shelly told me to f-off in one post. I replied. Then the moderator deleted both posts and penalized me three points with an explanation that although her violation was worse, I replied rather than ignored, thereby breaking LS rules. I wonder what the Mod did to Shelly but I'm not asking her cause the little bitch might curse again and get me into more trouble. I'm just sayin'
Star Gazer Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 TB and SG - I gotta warn you two - you might get some violation points if the mod busts you for hijakin' There has been no hijacking of this thread. We've discussed the implications of time passing after first-time sex. Just because we're the only ones having that conversation doesn't mean we're off-topic. My position stands: If you want a real future with a woman, you'd better call her the day after you have sex. Sure, some women will continue to see you if you don't, but the risk is too great if you REALLY like the woman. Furthermore, it's sooooo easy to pick up the phone and call. A guy's really got no excuse not to. As for the OP's specific situation, I'm hoping he's called by now. I'm eager to get an update!
tanbark813 Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 TB and SG - I gotta warn you two - you might get some violation points if the mod busts you for hijakin' Shelly told me to f-off in one post. I replied. Then the moderator deleted both posts and penalized me three points with an explanation that although her violation was worse, I replied rather than ignored, thereby breaking LS rules. I wonder what the Mod did to Shelly but I'm not asking her cause the little bitch might curse again and get me into more trouble. I'm just sayin' Dude, trust me, I have more than my fair share of violations under my belt.
Author brandie32 Posted June 23, 2007 Author Posted June 23, 2007 I understand that I sound insecure. but I ended a 7 year relationship 6 months ago and I am just not feeling very secure. and when you think that things are going one way and then everything changes it is confusing. So when I got out of the gym I had a text from him. I guess that is ok becuase I sent him a text and with we do communicate alot by texting. He ask how was work? what I was doing to tonight? and what I was doing tomorrow? When I replied commissions tonight (work for my family's dealership)not sure tomorrow , what are you doing? He repied "you". I was hoping I was being to literal seeing as we were texting. So i responded hmmm and he asked what time is good for me? I said a time? What did I just except? do you think it means what I think. I can not believe that I am thinking like this I feel like I am 25 agin. Please tell me I did not just make a date for sex?? How did this happen he knows I was in one relationship for 3years and another for 7...not really the poster child for easy. Nothing wrong with being easy I respect it in a women, but it is just not me. Yup I just made a sex date? or am I being crazy? probably both, but I do like him we have so much fun together and have a lot in common. Please give me some advise
Author brandie32 Posted June 23, 2007 Author Posted June 23, 2007 We do joke around a lot, we bust on each other a lot. I mean I work in a dealership that is basically all men, so I am used to busting around. I am grabbing a straws? But maybe he is kidding, just joking? What do I do tomorrow at 7:00? Please help should I say anything how do I say: I like him I not saying lets jump in to anything quickly, but I just do not want to be that girl he calls for sex. I just want something a little better than that, and I think I deserve more.
fray718 Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 I understand that I sound insecure. but I ended a 7 year relationship 6 months ago and I am just not feeling very secure. and when you think that things are going one way and then everything changes it is confusing. So when I got out of the gym I had a text from him. I guess that is ok becuase I sent him a text and with we do communicate alot by texting. He ask how was work? what I was doing to tonight? and what I was doing tomorrow? When I replied commissions tonight (work for my family's dealership)not sure tomorrow , what are you doing? He repied "you". I was hoping I was being to literal seeing as we were texting. So i responded hmmm and he asked what time is good for me? I said a time? What did I just except? do you think it means what I think. I can not believe that I am thinking like this I feel like I am 25 agin. Please tell me I did not just make a date for sex?? How did this happen he knows I was in one relationship for 3years and another for 7...not really the poster child for easy. Nothing wrong with being easy I respect it in a women, but it is just not me. Yup I just made a sex date? or am I being crazy? probably both, but I do like him we have so much fun together and have a lot in common. Please give me some advise I cant believe he replied with 'you'...that is just so 'ugh!'....ok, im trying really hard to think maybe we are just reading too much into this but if tan agrees, then this is prob what it is. I say you can go to check it out...but do NOT have sex with him if you see him again and then see how he reacts. Honestly, I can't understand how some men can do this to a woman....dont they understand how much it hurts!?!?!??!? I just finished crying from thinking bout how this one guy I dated for 7 weeks and fell in love with asked if I wanted to be fwb with him...my heart is still aching from the pain
fray718 Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 We do joke around a lot, we bust on each other a lot. I mean I work in a dealership that is basically all men, so I am used to busting around. I am grabbing a straws? But maybe he is kidding, just joking? What do I do tomorrow at 7:00? Please help should I say anything how do I say: I like him I not saying lets jump in to anything quickly, but I just do not want to be that girl he calls for sex. I just want something a little better than that, and I think I deserve more. ok i prob overreacted there...now that i think bout it maybe ur right...even a guy who just wants sex will not be that forward i would think....perhaps he's just joking....see how nice he is to u before u decide to have sex with him tomororw night....u should go but be just be a bit more cautious
Mary Magdalene Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 I'm afraid to say it, but yes. You just made a sex date.
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