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Kissing Jealousy?


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I was wondering...do guys get jealous or turned off if they knew that you kiss other guys while dating? I'm talking about guys that are interested, or just friends that might like me. I'm single, don't have a bf, they all know that, but if they knew that I kissed other guys while dating, would it make a difference of their interest in me? I wouldn't think it's a big deal, but I'm just wondering, and is kissing all that serious?

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If you're asking this question then it's my guess that you're not in a position to really care. Doesn't sound like you put much importance on exclusivity.

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I think she's referring to casual dating.

 

Here's my take. If I knew a girl had a rep for making out with guys casually at parties or wherever, I wouldn't be taking her too seriously if I liked her. It's not that I'd label her a slut, but I'd think

 

(1) These other guys are threats and competition

(2) How serious is her interest in me? If things aren't smooth, will she turn to someone else for attention?

 

Number 1 is a given before exclusivity, but yes, everyone is uncomfortable knowing the person they are dating is going out and kissing other people. It's something men deal with; we prefer out of sight out of mind. Other guys are competition and if you're smooching with our competition we feel threatened. We may be up for the challenge :), but we don't want it flaunted in our faces.

 

Number 2...if a girl has made out with several guys in an extended group of friends, and she makes out with me, I am not likely to take her seriously unless there was a courtship first.

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