Lucky555 Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 So i am left heartbroken from a dating fiasco that went sour. I am left with the unknown but i am pretty sure i know its over when he doesn't make time and says hes busy and says he didn't want a relationship. So besides that i really thought we had something, i felt this great connection with him and now its over. So now its been 2 weeks since a casual conversation with this guy, but 6 months since i had seen him..I guess i just keep it casual to avoid getting hurt. I did push him away on purpose because he wasn't honest with me from the beginning, but i dont know i just kept talking to him anyways because i still liked him but knew the place he was at in his life. So, it took me awhile to smarten up because i was just living in a fantasy world about this whole thing. I decided to step it up and meet the guys at my work. However, i don't see any potential with any of them! There is about 6 guys who have wanted to get to know be better. Not dating but just in the conversations we got to know one another. HOWEVER, they are now labeling me as a PIMP! hahaha. thats so funny because i am actually just meeting these people and discovering things about them. Is there something wrong with me that i don't feel anything for any of these guys? They seem nice some of them, but i don't feel it, i guess with time i will meet someone but what do you all suggest i do. I can't have these men labeling me like this, How can i just be friends with the guys i am not interested in and have them on my side, but also pursue other guys that i might be interested in. Gosh. its complicated like this but so far they all still like me as a friend of course, but i am worried that their perception is off. I can't just avoid these guys, i am an outgoing person, but i need some help here.
Steveto Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 umm..hmm PIMP huh? heh I recently met someone.....but I haven't heard from her in 2 weeks and the last conversation we had was 3 weeks ago....I'm bummed as well..I'm afraid she might be choosing career first...I am also looking at other options..work for me is not possible because I work from home, but I at least have the gift of the gab..so meeting people is second nature..I just have to step out the door..haha..I THINK you are getting sketchy looks from others because you weren't like that before and people notice the difference..like "why is she doing this?" "something is not right"...not in a bad way or anything..They're just not used to it...go to an unrelated event or a wedding and start meeting people..people you don't know and try your thang 8-) They might be more open and not so judgemental. The options still are not good enough for me either... Are you very in-your-face when you talk to your co-workers...like are your askign questions liek a news reporter..or you just show more interest than you normally would? I'd suggest a Friday co-worker day..after work..go to a pub and drink and talk..like a once a week thing..worker bonding thing.better than saying..hey..wanna catch a movie saturday or lets go for lunch, just you and me...make it a group thing that is ongoing.. That might help.
Author Lucky555 Posted June 23, 2007 Author Posted June 23, 2007 Are you very in-your-face when you talk to your co-workers...like are your askign questions liek a news reporter..or you just show more interest than you normally would? I'd suggest a Friday co-worker day..after work..go to a pub and drink and talk..like a once a week thing..worker bonding thing.better than saying..hey..wanna catch a movie saturday or lets go for lunch, just you and me...make it a group thing that is ongoing.. That might help. I fixed my status with this guys, i say that i am just chill and am looking for friends because i am not interested and its pretty casual which is awesome because we all have a great time. So i am taking it slow and did go out with a guy with his friends, but it didn't go so well, and he apologized because it was just a spur of the moment thing and he was drinking, glad i drove him where he needed to be instead...but its a process i think, still having an issue with this now
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