RyTom21 Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 Ok, here's my life story in a nutshell. I was born with a mild form of autism. Because I am different, I was teased alot. I didnt date much. In fact, I couldnt even get women to notice me. It seems like the only women who will go out with me are extremely overweight. I realize that I'm no Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp, but I think I deserve better than that. Below are some links to recent photos of me. Take a look, and then answer this question for me: Do you think I am good looking enough to attract a decent looking/ not overweight woman, or should I just settle for any woman that will look at me? http://s193.photobucket.com/albums/z172/ryantkvids/?action=view¤t=Random21.jpg http://s193.photobucket.com/albums/z172/ryantkvids/?action=view¤t=Random20.jpg http://s193.photobucket.com/albums/z172/ryantkvids/?action=view¤t=Random39.jpg http://s193.photobucket.com/albums/z172/ryantkvids/?action=view¤t=IM001987.jpg
Lucky555 Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 You make me so sad to even read what you wrote. First of all why wouldn't you be beautiful, you know your good looking already. You don't need others to tell you, you are good looking. Confidence, know what you want, get to be friends with a lady and do little things for her and she will fall for you. Be sweet and kind and little complements would help such as wow thats a nice watch. You got to get out there and meet some girls! By they way your REALLY ATTRACTIVE!!! Those blue eyes are so bright and lovely!
Author RyTom21 Posted June 20, 2007 Author Posted June 20, 2007 Thank you for the compliments!. I appreciate it more than you know! Believe it or not, I have never seen myself as attractive. I have been told that I'm ugly for the majority of my life, so thats what my mind tells my eyes to see whenever I look in the mirror.
Steveto Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 You're fine dude..I thought you'd be some messed up looking guy..haha..but you look pretty normal to me and I have no idea why larger women are attracted to you..really, I don't. and yeah..the blue eyes mesmerize women..I am stuck with brown eyes..I also know what it was like to be bullied in school..I hated it, but after grade 11 I hit back..haha.. I know how hard it is..to blow those insecurities away..just one day I was like..heh..this is BS! I know I am not the best looking guy out there...but I sure as hell aint the ugliest..that's how you need to think. I'm not just saying this stuff to make you feel better either. trust me..when you start thinking positively and showing confidence..you WILL notie the difference..really..go out there and be a damn socialite..start talking to people..they actually talk back! And you know what.,..you will run into people that will try to put you down..it is because THEY are insecure..NOT you..always remember that. Steve
Star Gazer Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 Deserve "better"? People deserve to be TREATED "better" when their CHARACTER is deserving of more. I think the better question is why do you feel large women are less deserving of being with an attractive man?
directx Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 Your better looking than me. Don't worry and don't think you have to settle for less. Love makes no sense. Don't force it. I would say stop looking for it. Keep your eye out for women though. Love yourself first. Sounds lame but true. Use the internet to find someone with the same interests as you. THen you dont have to worry about being interesting as much plus she will have more understanding with you. You know, I discovered the best women by admitting my faults straight up. I'd tell them I get grouchy on occaision. Sometimes I'm moody. I overeat sometimes, and I like to laugh at people fail on tv. THats just for starters. Maybe they just found it refreshing? I dunno. My point is, just enjoy being yourself. Its a lot less work and you'll attract people that understand you better.
justagirliegirl Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 Deserve "better"? People deserve to be TREATED "better" when their CHARACTER is deserving of more. I think the better question is why do you feel large women are less deserving of being with an attractive man? Thank you! I don't know how many times I have heard people say to another, you are far too beautiful to put up with abuse or whatever. So ugly people deserve to be abused? I also find it funny the grossest guys thinks they deserve a supermodel but wouldn't dare consider a girl more on "his level" Or the ones who cry how unfair it is to be judged on their looks, money or whatever but turn around and do it themselves. Not trying to be offensive to anyone's looks or size but just making a point.
BoBs Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 Ignoring the fact that this seems pretty insulting to over weight women, if you go and look at some scientific studys that have been done about who is attracted to whom and in almost all the studys it finds that men are attracted to hot women and women are attracted to rich men so it really dosen't matter if you look good or not, it only matters how much money you have.
Star Gazer Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 I realize that I'm no Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp, but I think I deserve better than that. From your same album? http://i193.photobucket.com/albums/z172/ryantkvids/Hawaii2007170.jpg
sveltskye Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 You look fine. I wouldn't worry so much about your looks if I were you. You want someone who will accept you for everything you are right? Someone who will fall for you for your personality and everything about you, instead of just seeing a face, right? And don't worry about not dating much. I'm 22, and as you can see from my pic, not ugly, but I've just barely started dating. The autism is something you might want to see a counseler or something about if you're insecure about it. Just because they'll give you tools that can make you more confident. In the end, though, try not to stress about the whole dating thing, just get out there and have fun. Join clubs, do things you want to do and make new friends. Get to know more people and you never know what might happen. I live with a 12 year old who has aspergers and he has a girlfriend with the same condition. Not saying that you need to find someone else with autism, but maybe you just need to find someone who will understand you. Meanwhile, just try to enjoy your life.
LN99 Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 Deserve "better"? People deserve to be TREATED "better" when their CHARACTER is deserving of more. I think the better question is why do you feel large women are less deserving of being with an attractive man? I couldn't agree with this more. What is wrong with larger woman? If they have a great personality and they like you for you, as you are, Flaws and all, then why not? There are normal skinny guys out there that actually do like larger women. (it seems rare but its true). It seems to me like you are striving for perfection. In reality, you will realize that the model types are the types that are high maintainence and probably will end up breaking your heart after they use you as a doormat. So instead, why not try finding a girl who you can just be yourself around and likes you for you?.....(and it shouldn't matter if she is large or small.)
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