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- so then what DO men want?

 

- and do you really give it to them?

 

I'd like to know if TBF knows what those men want and if she gives them what she thinks they want :)

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- so then what DO men want?

 

- and do you really give it to them?

It's very individualized. Each man wants different things. To attempt to stereotype all men, would be an exercise in futility.

 

The best people to ask if I do provide would be the men that interest me, not me.

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I'd like to know if TBF knows what those men want and if she gives them what she thinks they want :)

 

And what would you do with that information? Except resign yourself to a lifetime of sadness and regret?

 

I think of it more as a superstition than a rule.

 

For me, telling someone to wait three days is similar to telling someone standing at the edge of a pool of cool water to stand there and think about it. Just jump or else go put your clothes on and forget about it. You have a limited amount of time to make a move like that. And I know that if I wait three days to even call, I'm going to have WAY overthought what I'm going to say. But that matters only if you like the girl and care.

 

If you don't give a damn, then you can wait any number of days you want. And then guess what: if she likes you she'll say yes. Just like she would have otherwise.

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For me, telling someone to wait three days is similar to telling someone standing at the edge of a pool of cool water to stand there and think about it. Just jump or else go put your clothes on and forget about it. You have a limited amount of time to make a move like that. And I know that if I wait three days to even call, I'm going to have WAY overthought what I'm going to say. But that matters only if you like the girl and care.

Well, I'd better get on that phone, then, because "overthinking" is my middle name, my mantra, and my custom friggin' license plate.

 

Something is very strange about this thread. LS women are giving the men advice about what they want....

Although I'm still waiting to hear that one damned word! It will probably be a big letdown, like Curly's advice in City Slickers, something like "...well that one thing is something you have to figure out for yourself."

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And what would you do with that information? Except resign yourself to a lifetime of sadness and regret?

:laugh: Zing....

Although I'm still waiting to hear that one damned word! It will probably be a big letdown, like Curly's advice in City Slickers, something like "...well that one thing is something you have to figure out for yourself."

Thanks for the back door to exit from...

 

"...well, that one thing is something you have to figure out for yourself"...

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Well the weather looks look so I'll be doing the beach again tomorrow. I don't know if she'll be there or not, I'm just going to go and have a great time being with my friends.

 

Just on the off chance I do bump into her, this time I'll ask for her phone number... ;)

 

Thanks for all the advice guys and gals. It's really cool that everybody here can have their say and in the end (hopefully) help somebody, which everybody has.

 

Anybody planning to go to Sandy Hook tomorrow?

 

H777

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Well the weather looks look so I'll be doing the beach again tomorrow. I don't know if she'll be there or not, I'm just going to go and have a great time being with my friends.

 

Just on the off chance I do bump into her, this time I'll ask for her phone number... ;)

 

Thanks for all the advice guys and gals. It's really cool that everybody here can have their say and in the end (hopefully) help somebody, which everybody has.

 

Anybody planning to go to Sandy Hook tomorrow?

 

H777

 

I'll be on the beach ... but the other ocean.

 

Have fun buddy.

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It's very individualized. Each man wants different things. To attempt to stereotype all men, would be an exercise in futility.

 

The best people to ask if I do provide would be the men that interest me, not me.

 

So are you pretty succsesful with this?

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There is no lame 3 day rule (PARTICULARLY in your 30's when you're supposed to be "mature"). So long as you don't call/email/whatever that same day/night, you're in the clear. And IMO, the sooner you contact her (CALLING is preferred) the better.

 

WORD !!!

 

If you want to talk to someone then just pick up the phone and dial...

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WORD !!!

 

If you want to talk to someone then just pick up the phone and dial...

 

But... but... then there would be no need for LoveShack. No drama... must... have...drama.

:D

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There is no lame 3 day rule (PARTICULARLY in your 30's when you're supposed to be "mature"). So long as you don't call/email/whatever that same day/night, you're in the clear. And IMO, the sooner you contact her (CALLING is preferred) the better.

 

Unless you received a read receipt or used MySpace, you don't even know if she's checked her email yet. So try to chill out for now. :cool:

 

OK now don't get pissed, cause I'm just sayin'

 

If you are a "ten" and half the attractive males are calling (and all the nerdy ones :) ) then I don't think you'd be saying what you said here.

 

You would agree that it can be annoying to you, that men are all so eager to get your attention.

But it's the "average" or "less than ten" girls who seem to "appreciate" it more.

 

Not implying you're not attractive ... I'm just sayin' :)

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OK now don't get pissed, cause I'm just sayin'

 

If you are a "ten" and half the attractive males are calling (and all the nerdy ones :) ) then I don't think you'd be saying what you said here.

 

You would agree that it can be annoying to you, that men are all so eager to get your attention. Average girls seem to "appreciate" it more.

 

Not implying you're not attractive ... I'm just sayin' :)

 

They gave the phone number out Greg... so they obviously wanted the call...

 

10 or 2 .. it doesn't matter.. they laid the foundation for the calls by giving their own number out..

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They gave the phone number out Greg... so they obviously wanted the call...

 

10 or 2 .. it doesn't matter.. they laid the foundation for the calls by giving their own number out..

 

Definitely dissagree with that assumption. You are so wrong. ... 10 or 2 - Whoa!

 

A lot of guys get numbers (and email addresses) and still get the brush off. Happens the other way too. A lot!

 

That's where there's a debate.

If getting a number is a genuine show of interest, and then a call back the next day was effective, it would all be commonly known as effective. There would be no controversy.

 

So Art ...

do you get a lot of numbers?

are you pretty succesful with the girls, by calling them back?

You make it sound like it's either "easy" or that at least it works for you.

 

Wen you're trying ro get to know a ten ... you have to do something to stand out as different.

A quick and eager call back might NOT be a good idea. No matter how "natural" it might feel to you.

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They gave the phone number out Greg... so they obviously wanted the call...

 

Not true. Only roughly 50% do.

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Not true. Only roughly 50% do.

 

I don't normally agree with having a wing man to meet girls.

 

But I have a feeling that if I hung out with Tank I'd be getting more ass than a toilet seat :)

 

The subject of WHY anyone would give number even though not really interested - well that would deserve a thread of it's own.

 

But that it DOES happen - and a lot - that's not even debatable.

 

If you get a number ... never assume that it's a good sign, not yet anyway.

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So Art ...

do you get a lot of numbers?

are you pretty succesful with the girls, by calling them back?

You make it sound like it's either "easy" or that at least it works for you.

 

by the way SG is an 8.5 or 9 from what I have seen in her pics..

 

and no I don't get a lot of numbers anymore.. I'm in a relationship and I'm over 40 so there isn't any bar hopping in my future.

 

and yes I have always been very successful with women and I have always called them when I wanted to talk with them.. no games..

 

I will say that if you are going to call on the same day or day after a number is given that you have to have some game..

You have to be able to grab their attention into a conversation that they want to be in..

 

It is more about you and not about the girl.. if you wait 3-5 dyas then what that says to me is that you have no self confidence or enough to say that you can land her..

 

Dating isn't easy.. but talking to women and getting dates is if you have good social skills, good game and are interesting to talk to..

I have all those things...

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by the way SG is an 8.5 or 9 from what I have seen in her pics..

 

More like an 11.5... pleaze... :love:

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More like an 11.5... pleaze... :love:

 

the rez was low.. so I didn't want to give her a big ego..:p

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I don't normally agree with having a wing man to meet girls.

 

But I have a feeling that if I hung out with Tank I'd be getting more ass than a toilet seat :)

 

:laugh: I do what I can. :cool:

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and yes I have always been very successful with women and I have always called them when I wanted to talk with them.. no games..

 

Dating isn't easy.. but talking to women and getting dates is if you have good social skills, good game and are interesting to talk to..

I have all those things...

 

I'm glad for you buddy.

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by the way SG is an 8.5 or 9 from what I have seen in her pics..

 

That's nice. So are you sure there's no junk in thr trunk?

 

I've seen great face shots ... and then oooops!

 

I've seen some beautiful faces sitting at the bar ... but she should never get off the stool and walk away til everyone else has gone home.

 

I'm just askin' :)

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I have a feeling that SG will be chekin' in soon.

 

She'll assure us that she works out and looks great which is probably true.

To which I'd say "That's cool baby"

 

But she might be a little pissed at being called an 8.5 :)

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That's nice. So are you sure there's no junk in thr trunk?

 

I've seen great face shots ... and then oooops!

 

I've seen some beautiful faces sitting at the bar ... but she should never get off the stool and walk away til everyone else has gone home.

 

I'm just askin' :)

 

Wow, you just lost all respect in my book... OUCH!

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But she might be a little pissed at being called an 8.5 :)

Why would she be pissed at me ?.. 8.5 to 9 is pretty damn hot in my book and I don't know her except from the few pics that she has posted here..

 

I think her post about the timing of the phone call was right on target and she is speaking as someone that is in the dating game..

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