Star Gazer Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 if she's good looking and single then her phone will be ringing off the hook day and nite. when the dust settles she'll pick the guy she likes the most. You contradict yourself. If what you're saying is true - that a good looking girl's phone rings off the phone day and night - do you think that of all her suitors she's going to 'choose' a guy who doesn't seem to like her as much as someone else does? NO. I know you think otherwise, but you're not the one wearing panties...and you're not the one deciding who gets to take them off. SHE is. you obviously were more into Saturday dude than Friday dude from the start. in the end the woman chooses which guy she wants. Actually, I totally wasn't. I really liked Friday dude...but Saturday dude called while I was waiting for Friday dude. A lady should never be kept waiting.
oppath Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 Damn the 3 date rule. It's nice to see women dispelling all the BS about when guys should call. True, you can't call too often, and you don't want to call for too long, but call, arrange a date, call to confirm if you need to, and even the call the day after to say thanks. I remember a seinfeld episode where George was debating this, and Elaine said "she won't think you are desperate, she will think you liked her." Keep the calls brief, get to know her in person and save the longer chit chats for after you've gone on several dates and have greater rapport.
alphamale Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 Actually, I totally wasn't. I really liked Friday dude...but Saturday dude called while I was waiting for Friday dude. A lady should never be kept waiting. your really liked Friday dude better but since he waited 4 days to call , you ended up dating Saturday dude for 3 years.....talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face well in the end it didn't work out with Sat dude so maybe you made wrong choice
Star Gazer Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 Damn the 3 date rule. It's nice to see women dispelling all the BS about when guys should call. True, you can't call too often, and you don't want to call for too long, but call, arrange a date, call to confirm if you need to, and even the call the day after to say thanks. I remember a seinfeld episode where George was debating this, and Elaine said "she won't think you are desperate, she will think you liked her." Hallelujah!
Star Gazer Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 your really liked Friday dude better but since he waited 4 days to call , you ended up dating Saturday dude for 3 years.....talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face well in the end it didn't work out with Sat dude so maybe you made wrong choice It didn't work out, true...but that's not the point. Friday dude NEVER EVEN HAD A CHANCE once Saturday dude had done the right thing and called.
underpants Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 To OP, Here is what I suggest. You emailed her the next day and haven't heard back. Yes, there are a millon genuine reasons why she may not have responded yet. Haven't checked the email, wrong email (either sent or ...given to you --not good), or yes, maybe she is being purposely unavailable. You could do this. Send an email on like, Friday afternoon saying you are planning to be at the beach (same spot) on Sat at a time and you would love to see her if she should happen to show up. If she shows up this tells you 2 things, that she checks her email, and she was "ruling", but she sees some potential there. Where you go from there I don't know. If she doesn't show, no big whoop, you are at the beach, and there is one less woman to worry about being the one. BTW, Johan makes an excellent point. He is just .....damaged enough to see through the pooh/rules. Refreshing. Regards, Unders
alphamale Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 Friday dude NEVER EVEN HAD A CHANCE once Saturday dude had done the right thing and called. so if i meet a woman on Friday nite say around 9pm at some party then I should go home and call her at 3am so that no other potential suitor gets her? or should i make it 2am?
oppath Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 Alpha, if it's you, you'd be calling her at 3am to tell her "you left your panties. Should I give them to goodwill or do you want to come back for them?"
Touche Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 Alpha, if it's you, you'd be calling her at 3am to tell her "you left your panties. Should I give them to goodwill or do you want to come back for them?" Too funny! Do men really call paid escorts if they leave their underwear? I never knew that.
oppath Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 I don't know, I try to date girls who don't wear any at all . The general point is that it doesn't matter if you call the next day. If the girl is interested, and you click as people, you can call the very next day and it is not going to hurt you. Now, calling EVERY DAY is WAY OVERBOARD. But you can call and have a 5 minute phone call to set a date the next day, or you can wait a couple days, it doesn't really matter.
Touche Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 I don't know, I try to date girls who don't wear any at all . The general point is that it doesn't matter if you call the next day. If the girl is interested, and you click as people, you can call the very next day and it is not going to hurt you. Now, calling EVERY DAY is WAY OVERBOARD. But you can call and have a 5 minute phone call to set a date the next day, or you can wait a couple days, it doesn't really matter. Ha ha! I think it's kind of funny that you single men are telling other single men how to go about things. Maybe married (taken) women are in a better position to say what works best? I don't know...just a crazy notion I just had!
burning 4 revenge Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 I never ask for a number or call. I let the girl do that, but then again that only happens about once a year or so
Green Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 You should have got her number, why ask for email? When you get a girls number you call and if no one answers you dont even leave a message, you just wait a while and then try calling again.
Touche Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 I never ask for a number or call. I let the girl do that, but then again that only happens about once a year or so Could it be because they hang up when your dad's voice comes on instead of yours on your voice mail? I mean I have NO idea...just a crazy though.
alphamale Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 The general point is that it doesn't matter if you call the next day. If the girl is interested, and you click as people, you can call the very next day and it is not going to hurt you. when i meet new girl and get her # I just tell her that I'll call her next week. Then I call her next week, which may be 7 to 10 days from when I first met her. That way I get the best of both worlds... It works quite well, ya'll should try it.
oppath Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 Ha ha! I think it's kind of funny that you single men are telling other single men how to go about things. Maybe married (taken) women are in a better position to say what works best? I don't know...just a crazy notion I just had! Disagree, getting a dates and initial attraction aren't the same skills needed for a relationship, though if it is a relationship you desire, you've got to have it all. But more generally, just because someone is taken doesn't mean they know what to do. You can be married, have had lots of relationships, etc, and it doesn't make someone any better at dating and relationships. It just means they've gotten into them. But to the OP...try once more in a week, then move on.
Pyro Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 I'm sure this has been mentioned already, but the three-day rule is out of date. If you are mature, then you know what you want and you won't play childish immature BS games with the person. You call when you want to call and if you are truly interested in the person, then it should be before the third day, but just don't come on too strong too soon. If you wait like a week to call someone and they are still around to take your call, then chances are that they are desparate and will take whatever they can get. Yeah, who wants a prize like that?
Touche Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 Disagree, getting a dates and initial attraction aren't the same skills needed for a relationship, though if it is a relationship you desire, you've got to have it all. But more generally, just because someone is taken doesn't mean they know what to do. You can be married, have had lots of relationships, etc, and it doesn't make someone any better at dating and relationships. It just means they've gotten into them. But to the OP...try once more in a week, then move on. Really? Hmmm...sorry I didn't understand what you said. What does this mean?: "It just means they've gotten into them." WTF? What does that mean? And what does your first sentence mean? What exactly are you saying?
underpants Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 Alpha, You wait 10 days to call your hunnies? You are so money baby, money. I hope you don't get all your dating advice from Swingers or DiAgelo. However, yes it has it's perks. You, KMT and the forgotten TheKris, god speed. At some point you really have to ask yourself....What is it that you really want? Not to get off topic. OP my original suggesion stands. I do also agree with Oppath, in that when/if you make a second contact. This is the ...last attempt. Meaning if it is unmet, move on, knowing you put yourself out there, no shame in that. Regards, Unders
Pyro Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 Ha ha! I think it's kind of funny that you single men are telling other single men how to go about things. Maybe married (taken) women are in a better position to say what works best? I don't know...just a crazy notion I just had! Isn't it funny that those who disagree with the majority are the bachelors/bachelorettes?
oppath Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 Really? Hmmm...sorry I didn't understand what you said. What does this mean?: "It just means they've gotten into them." WTF? What does that mean? And what does your first sentence mean? What exactly are you saying? I mean there is sometimes a stigma, if you aren't in a relationship, something must be wrong with you, etc, or you aren't doing something right. That is BS. I can be doing nothing wrong as a single person but be perpetually single for a multitude of reasons. No listening to a married person will change that and they aren't better at relationships just because they are in one and I am single. And initial attraction and getting dates ARE NOT THE SAME THING as forging ahead to a relationship. This is relevant to the OP, because he thinks he might have done something wrong. It's easy to get lots of dates. In the process, you'll be avoided and flaked on often. To take a date into a relationship requires different skills and things such as LUCK that your life intersected anothers at the right time.
Pyro Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 Not to rub it in the faces of those who are heartbroken or looking to meet a new mate, but I am in a very happily committed relationship. I knew right from the start that I wanted to get to know her and see how things went, so I didn't wait arounda certain number of days or play any other stupid games, I went right for what I wanted and it has payed off. Like I mentioned a page back, the only tricky part is to not come on too strong too fast. You don't have to wait a certain number of days before contact, just don't make constant contact and scare the person off.
monkey00 Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 The case if if you get a # from a girl who has high interest level, she wont care if you call her the following day or 2 days later or 3 days later. The dilemna is if you wait too long her interest can dip to point of no return. Of course be sure when you call that you're using it to set up a date and not chit-chat. set up a date 2-3 days ahead of time so she will anticipate it and you will probably fit into her schedule.
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