Lost_in_TN Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 I have a lot of trouble dealing with things once the evening rolls around, mainly because that means night time is close at hand. For me that is when the lonelyness of it all sets in. For the past couple of nights a lot of thoughts about the Ex have filtered into my mind, and they are usually reflections of intimate encounters that we shared in the past. It is BRUTAL, and it is almost as if I can hear her in the throws of passion as I recall some special times between us. Then my mind instantly warps to seeing her in similar situations with the new guy and it just rips my heart out of my chest. I want these types of thoughts to STOP!!! Of course actually having sex with anyone at this point is the FURTHEST thing from my mind, so I am confused as to why a lot of my thoughts about her are starting to revolve around the sex life we had? Maybe because that was probably the strong point of our relation? I don't know, but I really don't want to spend another night trying to go to sleep with these thoughts in my head. As I was thinking these thoughts I figured to myself that she was probably at that very moment having sex with her new BF, and that was pretty painful. What can I do to shake these feelings?????????
sumdude Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 What can I do to shake these feelings????????? You have to ride them out, no shortcuts to that. If you try to bury them or avoid them with alcohol, drugs or suppress them they will still be there. Like land mines waiting for you or some other unfortunate person to step on. Get a bit PO'd too ... after all she's a lyin' cheatin' woman you just can't trust. So is she worth all this pain ... NO! You are better than that and can do way better. Still takes time and you will have to face all these feelings. Over time you will become stronger and wiser. Realize that you are learning and growing from this experience in your life. If you can't sleep read something, go for a late night walk, chat online find some distraction if you have to. I know I barely slept for the first month. Sometimes you just have to let those feeling be. They are real don't deny them but don't let them determine your fate either. To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under the sun. A time to be born and a time to die; a time to plant and a time to pluck up that which is planted; a time to kill and a time to heal ... a time to weep and a time to laugh; a time to mourn and a time to dance ... a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to lose and a time to seek; a time to rend and a time to sew; a time to keep silent and a time to speak; a time to love and a time to hate; a time for war and a time for peace.
Author Lost_in_TN Posted June 20, 2007 Author Posted June 20, 2007 Thanks for your input sumdude, I like your style. She is indeed a liar, thief, and a cheater. She is not worthy of a man of my caliber, I know that, and I know that in time all of this will get sorted out so I can move on. If riding it out is all I can do, then I will do just that. The thoughts last night were agonizing though!!! I don't do drugs, but will have a drink on occassion. I'm not a big drinker by any means, and know from my experience the other night that alcohol will only bring me down while all of this is going on. So I will avoid it.
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