wayderz Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 I am new to this forum, so please excuse me if this seems like a topic that is a bit too sensitive but I believe it is something that needs to be talked about openly. Through personal experience, from friend's and on television I have come to understand that most parents treat their children differently if they are homosexual/bisexual. I am sure we have all heard about parents going so far as to kick their own children out on the street, simply because they have chosen a different path. Why is this? What makes a homosexual child so different than a hedorosexual one? Why would a parent think it is right to treat their child differently, because of their sexuality? With that in mind, please discus this.
disgracian Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 Religious bigotry. It's so ingrained into our culture and mindset that reviling homosexuals is seen as the default position, and people who suggest they be treated the same as every other person on the planet are somehow radical. There exists not one good reason to treat gays with such hostility. So from a rational viewpoint I'm as much at a loss as you are as to why this discrepency exists. The closest to an answer I can give is: "it is because that's the way it's always been." Illogical, stupid, but there you go. Cheers, D.
Topper Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 II am sure we have all heard about parents going so far as to kick their own children out on the street, simply because they have chosen a different path. Why is this? What makes a homosexual child so different than a hedorosexual one? Why would a parent think it is right to treat their child differently, because of their sexuality? With that in mind, please discus this. this really isa great question. One that should be talked about. I find it interesting that you use the words " chosen a different path." That imply that they made a choice to be gay. I don't believe it is a choice. The idea that you make decision to be gay is part of the problem. The conservative Christians will take that as you made a choice to go against Gods will. I believe that being gay is not a choice it is just who you are. You are in effect born that way. It really isa sad state of affairs when parents can not except their own children for who they are.
Tony T Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 There are a certain number of parents, many of them ignorant, who just never gave a remote thought that one of their children might be gay. Because they are so prejudiced, when that happens the go wacko and move on from there. I truly don't like Vice President Cheney for a number of reasons, the least of which is not the fact that he's a crook, but he has been very supportive of his gay daughter and treats her like he would any daughter. I think now she's even in a gay relationship because I saw a picture the other day of the vice president and his wife with the couple's adopted child. So I don't think it's so much a matter of people not accepting their children, it's simply a matter of bigotry, prejudice and ignorance of some people. It's unfortunate. You would be amazed at the number of parents who hide their disabled and mentally challenged children as well, like they had them to be ornaments or something.
allina Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 That is a horrible thing to do, if I ever had a child I would love them equally gay or straight. I think the problem is that some ignorant, religious people oppose homosexuality, so thy clearly lack compassion or understanding any homosexual person. I went to college in San Francisco and knew many students who basically ran away to San Francisco from smaller towns in the midwest because their family didn't accept them and treated them like some shameful, dirty secret.
hotgurl Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 I agree with the other posters. I could never understand why parent would turn thier back on a gay child. It's horrible. And I do think it has to do with ignorance and religious bigotry. You can't help who you are attracted too.
quankanne Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 religion is just an excuse people use to treat someone shabbily – whether that person is gay, of another race or even another faith background. And all those discriminations boil down to fear and ignorance: You fear what you don't understand or know, but knowledge brings tolerance and understanding of things that are different. I'd like to think that I wouldn't treat my child differently because he or she realized he/she was homosexual. However, I'd encourage them to take care of who they share this information with so that they are not bullied or ostracized or worse, hurt. And I'd highly encourage them to refrain from engaging in sexual relationship, but that's something I'd advocate anyway –*I do not believe teenagers should be sexually active, period.
burning 4 revenge Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 I don't think children are born gay and your word chosen is well...well chosen. Whatever makes a child focus their sexual energy in that manner is a mystery and I think it's different in different situations, but I can understand a parent being concerned with their child becoming gay and I don't think religious bigotry has anything to do with it
burning 4 revenge Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 That is a horrible thing to do, if I ever had a child I would love them equally gay or straight. I think the problem is that some ignorant, religious people oppose homosexuality, so thy clearly lack compassion or understanding any homosexual person. I went to college in San Francisco and knew many students who basically ran away to San Francisco from smaller towns in the midwest because their family didn't accept them and treated them like some shameful, dirty secret.just because i like classical music and have a sluggish weenis it doesn't make me gay
Knittress Posted June 22, 2007 Posted June 22, 2007 I honestly don't think anyone would CHOSE to be gay. That assumption always bothers me. If you had a choice between casually blending in and people accepting you (or not) based on your interests and capacities instead of your sexuality vs. always having to feel awkward about holding the hand of the person you love in public - which would YOU chose?
Trimmer Posted June 22, 2007 Posted June 22, 2007 just because i like classical music and have a sluggish weenis it doesn't make me gay Wow, B4R - how in the world did you make allina's post all about you? wayderz - would you be willing to share your personal experience with us? I can't imagine the depth of my love for my children changing if either one were gay.
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