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Suddenly everything isn't what it used to be, now he hates me. Why?


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This is a long story. But there is this guy, I have have had a huge crush on him for almost a year, and we have known each other for over 10 years. I feel like such an idiot, but maybe if I can get some input, I can fix this mess. I made the stupid mistake of starting to believe that he liked me back. No, I never told him that I have a crush on him. Then, tonight actually, he just said something to me, that made me feel... I don't know how to describe it. Like he was sick of me. Not that I can blame him, I guess now that, I'm not all that interesting to talk to. I'm ashamed to admit it, but I've been crying for an hour. I just don't know... He basically told me, that he was going to stop talking to me for a while. Not his exact words, but thats what he meant.

 

The stupidest part is, I don't want to have a crush on him, and I do. I don't want to have a boy friend, but sometimes... I do.

 

The other night, we were at a party together, and something about the way he acted towards me, something about him, made me foolishly believe, he liked me. And then, the first thing he says to me tonight, is that he thinks we spend too much time together.

 

What do I do? I just feel so lost, so confused, so sad, so torn. How can I get over him? Because at this point, can can hardly see to type, and I just wish i could jump and never have to think again.

Help. :lmao:

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Yikes, I feel for you. You feel lousy because you had hope for something more, despite not wanting to have a crush on him (darned crushes, they are beyond our control), he sensed that, and backed off (don't even try to figure out why, you'll make yourself crazy). It sucks and hurts. But it has happened to me before, and probably to most of the people on LS at one time or another.

 

Please, though, do NOT judge yourself as "not being interesting to talk to". You are thinking this because you feel rejected by this particular guy.

 

Give yourself some time to heal from your dashed hopes, and don't spend any time with him for now, because if you do, it will just keep the wound from healing. Put your focus and energy into yourself and what makes You happy and strong as an individual.... Then dust yourself off, because you'll be a wiser woman for this experience, and get back out there. He's NOT the only man, there's someone who'll be able to be there for You, when you're ready.

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