shakarn Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 I hope I don't ramble, but i don't want to leave too much out. I met this guy on one of my nights out. I don't have many friends in this state and none that I can go and party with once and a while as I'm single and all of my friends/associates are married and most with children. Just after midnight this guy comes over and tells me that I shouldn't be standing by myself and asked if I would like to join his group. I did, but we ended up talking on our own outside for most of the night. I had more attention from other guys later that night and asked all of them if they wanted to go to another club. The first guy told me that he didn't want to be in competition with anyone and I said that he wasn't. I wasn't looking for anything that night. We all went caught a taxi into the city, but missed the deadline to get into the clubs. The other two guys decided to go there own way, however the first guy followed me. We had a great night talking at the only club open at that time of night. I found out that he is still married but has been seperated for two years (no kids). I was intoxicated but knew what I was doing and went home with him. One thing led to another. I was fine with it all as I'm very open with my sexuality. He called me the next night to see how I was going. The following day he invited me to breakfast and the movies. I declined. Only because I didn't like the movie that he was going to see. Then he went on holidays for a week. He called just as he was coming back to Brisbane to see how I was and ask me on a date and to meet with all of his friends on one of our public holidays. I accepted and we had a great day. I was very out of it by the end of the night and for some reason I left his place and went to my car(Not sure why as I had no intention of driving) and fell asleep. He was quit upset about it all apparently. He couldn't understand why I would have rathered sleeping in the car rather than in his bed. It seems that I have been trying to make it up to him ever since and show that I like him and would like to spend more time with him. However the real problems started when he decided to take me to his favourite night club (we were quite high). We had a great night and morning. He asked me that night to be his girlfriend and told his friends that were there that he now had a girlfriend. Although later on when the subject of that night came up, he acted like he didn't remember the night. We have met a few times during the week. At least once a week. He doesn't return my calls straight away. Sometimes I can wait days for his call. I found out from his friends that he didn't handle the break up with his wife very well. It was her decision to leave and that he has his days of depression. On his birthday I sent him a SMS message in the morning before I went back to sleep and then after lunch I called and left a message on his cell. I again sent an SMS asking where he was and if he was having a good day around 9pm. I decided to make other plans that day (as I had the day planned with him). At 11:30pm I got a text message fromhim asking if I was going to come to his favourite club. For some reason I drove an hour and a half in order to get home to drop my car off and then catch a taxi for another 20 miniutes to get into the club. I found out later that he went to the horse racing with one of his friends that day. He asked me if he got a kiss hello. I acted like it wasn't a big deal that I wasn't invited to the races or didn't at least get a call to say that he was spending time with the boys. We and some of his friends crashed (and that's all) at his place that night and I ended up leaving to go home early the next morning. I got a call from him after lunch to join him and his friends at a festival. We had a great day and night once again. We had this thing planned on the Wednesday but he called to cancel as he had to go to his sisters place to fix some things (he's a tradesperson). So he asked if I could make it for dinner at his place the next day. He called the next day to say that he only found out he had to do an assignment for his studies by the next day and so he had to cancel dinner again. I have not heard from him since. I sent an SMS on two nights later to see if he wanted to hit the town and then I called the following day to see he was but his cell went straight to mesage bank. Is this guy playing with me? I've always said to him that first and foremost I want to be his friend. I want to help him get through any issues he might have so he can be happy. I've never been rejected before or ignored. Not quite sure on what to do. Does anyone have any suggestions??
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