hops5000 Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 This has been my first serious relationship since 2004 and I'm 27..and I have no clue what to do next..I've ran out of ideas for the moment being..umm..we both agreed to take it slow..but sometimes it's hard not to just call each other up and ask the other to hang out..then we end up doing the nasty..lol...haha..umm..just embarassed a little is all.. i'm the romantic type that likes to write my woman a little poem every now and then and she totally loves it..but that can get pretty cheesey..i've done it once for her when I met her just to show her I really think a lot of her...but I don't want to overdo the "romance" gig for fear she thinks i'm just a huge nerd/geek/dork..lol..whatever you call it. I have a good job and I have my own DJ biz up and running so i'm not lacking fundage for gas, groceries and all the necessities a guy needs.. I'm 6'1, athletic ( I ride my bike everywhere unless I have a gig, and I play basketball every day for at least an hour)... She's a shy girl who doesn't go out unless she needs to..the store, music store, whatever..Wal Mart..ya know..just likes to stay home and chill when she's not working.. Is there any way to keep it going slow and steady but yet have a nice pace where we can hang out every few days? Advice needed please help.
Apple Blossom Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 It sounds like things are going pretty great with you guys! So lucky you! hehe. But, yeah what about hanging out in places other than each other's places? Say go to the cinema, or bowling, or even a picnic or something. Maybe set up like a couple of date nights each week, where you both know that you're going to see each other on those specified evenings, and make sure you make it something fun! Maybe take it in turns to organise doing stuff? Hmm, sorry thats all i can really think of - i mean have you tried talking to her about it and stuff? But yeah - hope that helps some, :s
electric_sheep Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 I'm just curious... do you guys want to keep things more casual? Do you have an aversion to making things more serious? My relationships have always been sort of the opposite. My girlfriend usually ends up becoming my best friend, and we end up hanging out together all the time. Not that this is a better approach, it's just the kind of relationships I usually end up in. Over-exposure has it's own risks. If I were you I'd just start calling her up to do things a little more often. Maybe start including her in even the more mundane things, like watching late night TV, or shopping for a Father's Day gift. I don't think there is any reason to have a formal talk about anything. If you guys spend a little more time together you'll probably just naturally get tighter.
Author hops5000 Posted June 20, 2007 Author Posted June 20, 2007 alright...well..I haven't talked to her since like Thursday of last week..so I guess I should call her? I want to but I also don't want to intrude on her parents boundaries by calling too much..it's been like 6 days so I think I'm in the clear now... There was one little problem 2 weeks ago though...I had no way to get a ride up to her place so I lied and said to my 'rents that I needed a battery for my phone (which I did need and I did get it)..I basically showed up unexpectadly while her dad was home.."DOH!!"..I felt like a total loser for doing it..but I thought it was the "right thing" to do..I guess not..her dad was pissssed...but my gf was pretty cool about it and we ended up hanging for like almost 4 hours while I tried to score a ride back to my place..eventually a good friend came and got me..I learned my lesson..DONT LIE! but yeah..she called me a day later and just basically said "it was great to see you and spend all that time together but it really hurt that you would lie to you 'rents and pretty much everyone else just to see me..but don't think I'll dump you over something that was in a way meant to be a nice little surprise".. she rox so much peace
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