exotic_angel Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 Girls night out 2 Fridays ago, we’re club/bar hopping, so I walk into our final stop feeling a bit tipsy and immediately my eyes fall upon the rather talkative guy in blue. My friends and I settle in by the bar and I feel him looking at me too. A few moments later he appears and ask my friend to get her space by the bar so he could order another drink. All the while, we’re both smiling and motion-flirting with each other. Turns out the guy knows one of my friends sister from a long time ago. Conversation begins to flow. Convo is REAL good and I’m majorly attracted to him. Soon we’re in his car, talking. I begin making moves and he insist that he wants to take me out dancing.. I tell him some crap about I know it’s just a one night stand he’s after so lets just get to it. BTW I don’t do this often and I have NEVER done something like this before. Anyways, we end up making out and he places all the focus on me, I still haven’t seen his pecker, but I can feel it. We get to talking, he ask if I’d go out with him sometime and I say yes. Later, we both leave, with my girl friends to another friends house, I leave in his car though . That night he calls to make sure I’m home safely. The next day he calls and we talk for more than an hour about family and our careers and all other non sexual topics, with a few bits of flirting in between. We talk the next night as well. And on Wednesday I invite him to my place cause I had some friends over for an after work drink. He stops by but doesn’t stay long, I didn’t mind cause I know that he has to drive 45mins to an hour to get home and then wake up at 5am. Even though we have talked a lot I’m still very confused as to what he feels. He didn’t really make the effort to meet me after, yet he says he wants to. He’s always working late and I just want to know, how to figure out this one? How should I deal? How to show him the “other” good parts of me? How will I know if he’s really interested???? Please give me some kind of insight or answer??? I need some opinions???
daphne Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 exotic, Despite what he's said or how he's behaved, I would assume that this isn't going to go much beyond a one night stand. He may be interested in you, but men play by double standard rules. He may have reservations about you because you pursued him and slept with him without making him earn anything. I wouldn't wrack my brain trying to figure this out. Just don't sleep with someone this soon if you're interested in them. It rarely turns out to be a long term thing.
StayClose Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 Did she have sex with him, from what I read, it sounds like no. As for weather he's interested, it seems to click, so that may mean a yes, unless he's a "player." If he's interested, he will contact you. I disagree than men play by a double standard. The majority of first dates do not lead to relationships, regardless of whether you have sex on them or not. I think the difference is that when there's sex, there's more likely to be an expecation of a relationship than a first date that ends with a handshake.
Author exotic_angel Posted June 21, 2007 Author Posted June 21, 2007 Wow.. that’s 2 completely different opinions.. But no I didn’t sleep with him.. we went back to his car and we made out and there was alot of foreplay but all was focused on me.. Later when we talked about it, he said that he really didn’t take me out to his car to make out, but to talk or go someplace else and “get to know each other” He thinks that I was really drunk though and I think that’s good, so at least he won’t think I do this often, because I don’t. He’s not a player, I know that for sure but he has a really demanding job and I want to take this further.. I just don’t know how. Should I call him up and talk normal.. because all our conversations after were very friendly and rarely flirty. I haven’t spoken to him since Monday night and it’s now Thursday. Should I call? How should I talk to him? What can I talk about in order to get to know him better without him thinking that I’m looking for a relationship? I get so nervous and I feel like I’ve lost it all because I gave in so easily within hours of meeting him.. Can I salvage a friendship????
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