disconcertainly Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I am so frustrated with my boyfriend of 4years. He will be leaving tommorrow for Washington D.C with his parents for vacation. I don't have a problem with him going on vacation with his parents at all but I just have to wonder why would he want to go on vacation without me? I would never ever think to go any where and not include him. I am just frustrated since now my selfish side does come out as is only human nature because now the trip the beach in august is cancelled since he will not be able to get off work again so no vacation for me now. Oh it could be worse. I am just frustrated with a situation in which i have no control of input at all.
serial muse Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I am so frustrated with my boyfriend of 4years. He will be leaving tommorrow for Washington D.C with his parents for vacation. I don't have a problem with him going on vacation with his parents at all but I just have to wonder why would he want to go on vacation without me? I would never ever think to go any where and not include him. I am just frustrated since now my selfish side does come out as is only human nature because now the trip the beach in august is cancelled since he will not be able to get off work again so no vacation for me now. Oh it could be worse. I am just frustrated with a situation in which i have no control of input at all. I know it sounds simplistic but why not go on vacation without him in August??
Author disconcertainly Posted June 19, 2007 Author Posted June 19, 2007 I so would except for I would feel guilty and another major factor is the fact that none of my friends can get off work that week so I had to cancel my plans. I am just complaining I will! Just need to vent since he does not understand my point of view at all. =)
lynn64 Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I agree! Take a friend, have a great time. Maybe the two of you can just promise that the next vacation, you go together.
Author disconcertainly Posted June 19, 2007 Author Posted June 19, 2007 Also, tradition plays a part here for me anyway..... we always normally go some where together the last week of july - 1st week of august. I am just being a baby since he is a typical guy. I am having a pity party lol !
serial muse Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 Also, tradition plays a part here for me anyway..... we always normally go some where together the last week of july - 1st week of august. I am just being a baby since he is a typical guy. I am having a pity party lol ! I gotcha, sometimes you just have to whine. I was having a pity party myself just the other day...BF's going on a fabulous vacation partially paid for by work this summer, and I don't know if I can afford to join him. At the very least he needs to stop gloating about his awesome trip!
Author disconcertainly Posted June 19, 2007 Author Posted June 19, 2007 I gotcha, sometimes you just have to whine. I was having a pity party myself just the other day...BF's going on a fabulous vacation partially paid for by work this summer, and I don't know if I can afford to join him. At the very least he needs to stop gloating about his awesome trip! I hear you what I would give for the OPTION to attend! =p
Aussie65 Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 His parents probably have the problem here and are saying...we just want you to come on your own son and he has no B**** to say otherwise.Well that's my opinion...maybe they think you two spend too much time together?who knows but either way it doesn't sound right to me. oh and also,you don't know what he is telling them...been there done that with my ex.
Author disconcertainly Posted June 19, 2007 Author Posted June 19, 2007 Well, I do agree with you that I have no clue what he is telling them but I dont get to see him at all during the week normally so we only see each other on the weekends. I could careless what they think about us spending time together because we have been together for 4 years. I just know whats going to happen he is going to call me and start complaining about hoe awful it is and how his Mom will not get off his case. So we shall see how it unfolds. He is on a plane right now as I type this! I guess when it comes to things like this with my familt I expect my family to include him and if they dont I just dont go.
Author disconcertainly Posted June 19, 2007 Author Posted June 19, 2007 He cant even call me!!!! I am going to scream!!!!!!!!! Here is an email I just got: Hey just checking in with you. I finally made it to the hotel. It was very tiring today. We had to go from the airport, to walk to the train station, then we talked to the metro (underground train), then we walked 2 blocks to the hotel. I'm pretty tired. I love you, have a good afternoon. Love,
Aussie65 Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 hmmm honey....WTF is going on here with him?It just does not sound right at all.What nationality is he...just thinking they might be trying to hook him up with a relative or close friend of a friends.Have you guys been having problems lately and as I said before he may be discussing them with his family.Either way he is making it clear that he is wanting his family space. After 4 years being in a relationship with him one would have thought 1/You would be part of the family! 2/You would have been expected to go anyway. too weird the whole thing...take some me time,go get with some friends and try not to worry to much for now,I know that must be hard to do but obviously he isn't thinking too much about your feelings.Let us know what happens and good luck!.
Author disconcertainly Posted June 21, 2007 Author Posted June 21, 2007 hmmm honey....WTF is going on here with him?It just does not sound right at all.What nationality is he...just thinking they might be trying to hook him up with a relative or close friend of a friends.Have you guys been having problems lately and as I said before he may be discussing them with his family.Either way he is making it clear that he is wanting his family space. After 4 years being in a relationship with him one would have thought 1/You would be part of the family! 2/You would have been expected to go anyway. too weird the whole thing...take some me time,go get with some friends and try not to worry to much for now,I know that must be hard to do but obviously he isn't thinking too much about your feelings.Let us know what happens and good luck!. Yes, you would think that I would be part of the family but I am not. He is treated like one of my family member's at my rents house and always have been. His parents are way different than what I call "normal parents" the mainly talk to their son through email communication. I think that is odd to start with but thats just me. To answer your question about problems no we have not being having problems at all but I do agree that they could be trying to set him up with someone else....thats just how they are. I am not rich nor do i come from money so I dont fit into their ideal image of a girlfriend for their son if that makes since. I mean for the most part to my face they have been nice but they have also said things behind my back. My man has been a little better today about calls and text messages even though we can't really talk since he is share one hotel room with his rents and 9 year old little brother. I think it is odd that he even wanted to really go without me....as I would never go without him having the option to go. That;s me and I am a girl so I may be totally off my rocker on that. I could never sit and explain why this is so odd to him without him getting on the defensive so anyway I will let ya'll know what happens.
justagirliegirl Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 It sounds like you are in danger of making this guy your entire life. You would not go somewhere if he couldn't go and notice he did not do that for you. I would maintain some of your life that is separate from him. Denying yourself fun or a vacation because he can't go is only hurting yourself in the long run. Go somewhere by yourself for a change. It would do you good.
Author disconcertainly Posted June 21, 2007 Author Posted June 21, 2007 It sounds like you are in danger of making this guy your entire life. You would not go somewhere if he couldn't go and notice he did not do that for you. I would maintain some of your life that is separate from him. Denying yourself fun or a vacation because he can't go is only hurting yourself in the long run. Go somewhere by yourself for a change. It would do you good. After 4 years with some one it is hard not RESPECT them. Once you have been in a relationship for so long it is hard not to be considerate of the other despite the fact it was not returned to me in this situation. I have no issues with going on vacation with my friends but none can get off work and most have children or are expecting. And I am not driving 6 hours to the beach alone.
justagirliegirl Posted June 21, 2007 Posted June 21, 2007 So if he didn't forgo his vacation because you couldn't go is that disrespect for you? My point was more about having a life independent of him. Well you don't have to drive or even go to a beach. You could do something else. I'm flying across the planet alone in a few weeks. I plan to have a blast.
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