TheSilentType Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 If you didn't have kids, how many of you would date or marry someone who had kids? Why or why not?
Pyro Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 As long as the chemistry is there, I would have no problem. Having kids usually helps the woman grow up and mature and not play games, which is what I like.
justagirliegirl Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 No way unless they were grown and on their own. I already raised my kids and have no desire to raise anyone else's or deal with drama and the financial burdens of them.
Lucky555 Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I think it depends, i myself am pursuing a career. I know i wouldn't date a guy right now if he had a kid. Maybe if i were older such as 33, established and i met a great guy with a kid i might date him. It depends on age and where the person is at in their life. I also have some friends though that don't mind dating a guy with a kid because they are more open to the idea. I think because they know that they want kids the idea of it is good for them. I myself don't know if i want kids. So i guess you have to ask the person you want to date.
Steveto Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 One kid...probably..more than that..I'd seriously have to think about it. my lifestyle really doesn't suit a kid..I travel to much I live in 2 countries...I freelance and have my own company...I'm lucky ust to keep the relationship alive...it's up to the individual..The thing is...what if I marry this person..if she has 2 or more kids..would she want another? I mean..heh..I want a child of my own..now way can I support that many..especially if I want to send them to private school..lol Unless of course I sell out for like 100 mill...even that's not enough for me...more often than not, the one that attracts me are career oriented and for the most part, these types of women don't have kids, but if they do, one kid is max for me.
Lizzie60 Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I tried a few times, and it never works... I love kids but not in a relationship... My last ex had 2 sons (pre to teens, I was 5 years with him)... it didn't work out... I dated a really nice guy but he had 2 sons (also 2 boys pre-teens).... one was a real monster... Been there, done that... so unless they are out of the house, on their own, not dependent on their parents...then maybe... I am old enough to be a grandma now... (oohhhh I can't wait for November)... and, if I ever stay with a man again (which I doubt very much) ... I wouldn't want to share him with his kids...
lynn64 Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I am young, have no children, and I recently dated a man that had three. I have never even dated anyone with one. At first it was okay, but eventually I found out that there is too big of a difference in our lives. I love children, and I eventually hope to have some but this just didn't work out for me. Maybe it would have been different had he not had a so many.
katiebour Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I would date a guy with kids. I like kids and if I liked the guy I wouldn't see it as a problem. I grew up in a "blended" household, and although it didn't really work out between me and my stepfamily, my father and stepmother still love each other so much. It's a beautiful relationship and I think it would be a shame to miss out on that kind of love because the person in question had kids.
a4a Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 No, I would not date a person with kids. Too much drama from the X(s). Too much focus on the kids and you miss out on the things that get a R off the ground. If the kids were grown - out of the house and on their own, that would be different. No way with kids under 18 or that live at home.
bish Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I did date someone with kids, but made up my mind after that I would never do it again. But not for the reasons one might think. The problem was is that I grew attached to her kids. They were 4 and 2. When we broke up, I wasn't unhappy that I wasn't with her anymore, I missed the kids so bad I actually didn't eat for more than a week. So for that reason I wouldn't do it again, unless the kids were older. I think them being that young made it all too easy to grow attached.
justpassingthrough Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 Sure I would, as long as they're adults and out of the house. I've raised mine and I don't want to raise anyone else's.
Krytellan Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I would date someone with kids. If I found I didn't like it, there's nothing keeping me there. I would, however, prefer to date someone with no children. I really want to have children with my future wife.
Touche Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 After I left my first husband, I made up my mind that I would never again date a man with kids. It just wasn't for me. But I was being unrealistic to think that at 33 I would actually meet a single man with no kids. Sure enough, I met my H and we clicked instantly. You should have seen my face though when he pulled his son's picture out of his wallet on our first date. But what was I to do? He was everything I had always looked for in a man. So I had no choice but to accept that he had a child. It was rough at first with the the ex and all the drama that comes with being a stepmother, but in the end it all worked out. I have no regrets.
rainfall Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I don't think I would ever want to date/marry someone with kids. I don't want children and to take on that responsibilty of raising looking after someone else's children is not something that sounds like a fun time to me. I also wouldn't want to be involved in the possible messy relationship of the ex who they had the children with....just not for me.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I have kids and I would date a guy with kids. But my pattern so far has been to date guys with no kids. Not sure why. Maybe they just seem to have more time for me. My last bf didn't click well with my kids and says now he will never date someone with kids again. No, my kids aren't that bad, he was just an a$$
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