Meaplus3 Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I have been around here long enough now to read a ton of thread's about the MM's out there and there behaviour toward's an OW. In a few stories I read the thought crossed my mind that the MM in that thread sound's so much like the MM I had an ea with. I alway's wondered if I posted MM's name (NOT that I would ) how many out there could have crossed path's with this mm and been in an ea or A with the same guy? AP:)
messylady Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Hi there, I would never post a name either but I have wondered the exact same question as you, there are a couple of threads I follow religiously because I could have written them !!, especially the ones where mm disappears... maybe it is just a case of ya cant reinvent the wheel !! x
Author Meaplus3 Posted June 18, 2007 Author Posted June 18, 2007 Hi there, I would never post a name either but I have wondered the exact same question as you, there are a couple of threads I follow religiously because I could have written them !!, especially the ones where mm disappears... maybe it is just a case of ya cant reinvent the wheel !! x Ha! Written them all is too funny! but I so know what you mean.
messylady Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 But it's comforting to know we are not alone ain't it ? x
Author Meaplus3 Posted June 18, 2007 Author Posted June 18, 2007 But it's comforting to know we are not alone ain't it ? x I guess so! :laugh:How about a MM name blog? LOL! Now that would be a riot but probably not a good idea!
messylady Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 knowing my luck my mm's name would appear time and again hence shattering all my "what if's" and but "he might be pining for me" yeah right !!! x
Author Meaplus3 Posted June 18, 2007 Author Posted June 18, 2007 knowing my luck my mm's name would appear time and again hence shattering all my "what if's" and but "he might be pining for me" yeah right !!! x hehehe!
messylady Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Sometimes I wish I could get an obvious clue that he was involved with more than just me, that might finally convince me he is no good.. but I suppose I would justify it the same as I do every time he poohs on me ... ironic aint it? I never did a thing wrong in my life till the grand old age of 44... then I got well and truly sucked in by a mm ... oh and congrats on your answer to the judgemental bish... I thought the same but am having trouble putting sentences together tonight lol x
Author Meaplus3 Posted June 18, 2007 Author Posted June 18, 2007 Sometimes I wish I could get an obvious clue that he was involved with more than just me, that might finally convince me he is no good.. but I suppose I would justify it the same as I do every time he poohs on me ... ironic aint it? I never did a thing wrong in my life till the grand old age of 44... then I got well and truly sucked in by a mm ... oh and congrats on your answer to the judgemental bish... I thought the same but am having trouble putting sentences together tonight lol x I can say I have been a good girl myself up until my ea started at 36. I never intended to get involved with another MM or single man in my life, I am not proud of the fact that my ea occured, but I can't change that now. AP:D
messylady Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Sweetie , not one of us is perfect, I thought (as did everyone who knows me) that I was the conventional, good mother , wife etc, even I was convinced that I would never step out of line, then I messed up big time and got involved with an mm (online) when msn had it's infamous "married and bored"chatrooms, my marriage was dead in the water anyway, but the pain I have gone through since meeting the mm is far worse than any I endured in my marriage, so all I can say is if it is not to late, please be careful x
BurriedAlive Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I think that the behavior depicted in these threads by MMs are all so typical of selfish, selfcentered a-holes who only think of themselves and don't take any regard to who they may hurt by engaging in an A that it appears as though we are all sleeping with the same Jerk!!!! Unfortunately none of us invented the A where OW falls hopeless in love with a man who is only dedicated to himself and will never be fully available to either his OW or his W. Okay, so my post seems a little angry, but it would be nice to think that there are only a few cruel MMs in the world instead of many broken-hearted Ws & OWs! I guess that's why LS is so helpful to all us - we are not alone in our boats!
messylady Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I think that the behavior depicted in these threads by MMs are all so typical of selfish, selfcentered a-holes who only think of themselves and don't take any regard to who they may hurt by engaging in an A that it appears as though we are all sleeping with the same Jerk!!!! Unfortunately none of us invented the A where OW falls hopeless in love with a man who is only dedicated to himself and will never be fully available to either his OW or his W. Okay, so my post seems a little angry, but it would be nice to think that there are only a few cruel MMs in the world instead of many broken-hearted Ws & OWs! I guess that's why LS is so helpful to all us - we are not alone in our boats! My mm or xmm (because i dunno anymore) has left me hurt and incapable of trusting any other man, he has hurt me more than my abusuve x husband ever did.. in every other area of my life I am an intelligent, sensible sort of woman... yet when I get home I hit the wine about 9pm just to make sleep possible... i thank god.. or whoever is out there that I found this site... I was ready to throw the towel in before i came here x
Author Meaplus3 Posted June 19, 2007 Author Posted June 19, 2007 My mm or xmm (because i dunno anymore) has left me hurt and incapable of trusting any other man, he has hurt me more than my abusuve x husband ever did.. in every other area of my life I am an intelligent, sensible sort of woman... yet when I get home I hit the wine about 9pm just to make sleep possible... i thank god.. or whoever is out there that I found this site... I was ready to throw the towel in before i came here x Messy. One thing that I learned about geting involved in any relationship while in an abusive marriage is "Appealing", and when they "ADORE" you enough not to want to hurt you, well let's just say "Story-book love", but not reality! It's bill', history, comfort and the whole nine yard's (yes my MM's a yard away, LOL:lmao:) it keep's them there. That's it in a nut shell. Forget true deep feeling's for some sacrafice of the material world! Just my IMO. AP
messylady Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 dunno why but because of tonights conversation, I have deleted him from my mobile and messenger and torn up his home number.... now i'm really alone out here ... scary stuff , but in the words of a james morrison song "the pieces dont fit anymore" x
serial muse Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I guess so! :laugh:How about a MM name blog? LOL! Now that would be a riot but probably not a good idea! it's not exclusive to MM but dontdatehimgirl dot com was basically a database of cheating guys. i think it's still around.
PoshPrincess Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 My mm or xmm (because i dunno anymore) has left me hurt and incapable of trusting any other man, he has hurt me more than my abusuve x husband ever did.. in every other area of my life I am an intelligent, sensible sort of woman... yet when I get home I hit the wine about 9pm just to make sleep possible... i thank god.. or whoever is out there that I found this site... I was ready to throw the towel in before i came here x We've all been there Messy! I was like that with the wine this time last year. I could easily get through a bottle most nights. It does get easier! Going back to the topic of this thread, I would never imagine anyone else having an A with my exMM (although I know he cheated once before quite a few years ago). Not that he isn't attractive (God, he SO is!!!!), but he definitely wasn't a serial adulterer and I seriously think he, like me, has learned a lesson from this whole sorry mess! I do look out for stories that may have come from him or his BW though. When I was really low I always wanted to read a thread from him asking "what should he do, he loves he OW so much, is scared of leaving the kids, etc..... ". Madness really. What would it have achieved anyway?
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