waitingwaitingonyou Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Well I have been dating this girl for 4 months. Everything has been ok. I went and saw her this past weekend and everything was absolutley great! She is really in to me so she says. Well this is a LDR and today when I came home. I never hear from her. She never calls. I try all day to call and she never anwsers. I finally get ahold of her and ask her what she is doing she says that she is just sitting outside alone. I do not believe this. I think she is lying to me. You dont sit outside alone all day. Right now it is 10 at night and she still has not called me all day. It seems like she only calls me whenever it suits her own time. I am getting absolutley sick of it. I am thinking about ending this relationship due to the fact that I think she is seeing someone else on the side. She is in her hometown right now and she picked to be in her hometown this week over me. She said that we will spend alot of time this summer and that she wanted to go home. No one is at her house cuz her mom and dad ar on vacation,. What do you think is going on here people?? I hope you got some insite sceptic
bish Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Now come on, there are people that sit outside all day by themselves....mental institution inmates. Ya, I'd move on. Sounds like this girl is feeding you a line. And if that isn't enough reason, the fact this is a LDR is enough.
Steveto Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 hmm..I got the no contact thing happening to me and the relationship hasn't even started, but hey...she's got killer excuses.. your girl on the other hand..that's a pretty lame excuse..really.. Here I go again on my own..... as the song goes..leave..find somone else. You don't need that . Steve
directx Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I would do a couple of things: 1) Accept the fact the relationship may be over and be prepared to end it 2) If you have decided that you can end it, then end it but don't tell her. Have a little fun/experimentation. Just ignore her now, and if she calls back, give her the exact same excuse she gave you. If you want, be a little suspicious about it (like giggle or something) but don't offer any more information than she gave you. She how she likes it.
Yamaha Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Women hate to be ignored but love to ignore you. I always treat them the same way they treat you so if she is being distant, you do the same. If things don't improve look elsewhere.
frygirl Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 You've posted about this girl before and I'm sorry to say that my opinion has not changed. She is either seeing some one else while visiting her hometown (possibly ex-boyfriend) or maybe you just have to accept the simple fact that she isn't that into you. If I had time off to spend with my LDR boyfriend, wild horses couldn't stop me. Its time to accept the fact that this LDR isn't going anywhere, at least no where you want to go.
Lucky555 Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Women hate to be ignored but love to ignore you. I always treat them the same way they treat you so if she is being distant, you do the same. If things don't improve look elsewhere. I agree with this statement. However, i ignored the guy because i wanted to see how much of a man he was. Like i don't know when he got mad i thought it was totally hot. lol He never showed alot of emotion and i never got to see what he was really like then again we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend just "seeing where things go" which i hated. So besides that you should ask her, "HOW ARE YOU DOING" a lot of guys don't ask this simple question to show they care! Then be like is everything ok? she could just be having a bad week and sometimes its good to give someone a day or two for themselves. I know i like my quiet days cuz life just gets hectic. But if she doesn't seem to want to talk to you say well if you don't tell me whats up i dont see how were ever going to progress with our relationship. Yeah guys don't ever talk about the "relationship" So that would be a surprise. I mean shes probably got something shes thinking about too, why is she just sitting there outside all day, cuz something is obviously bothering her or like i said needs quiet time. Um, also when i really like a guy i am more distant cuz i don't want him to think that i am "hovering" over him. So who knows you have to talk to her. If you ignore her which will bother her and make your situation worse, i wish i never ignored that guy now, and i wish i would have said to him what i was actually feeling and thinking and we could had talked about it. But thats just part of it and i think its the most part that might help you out. There are always two sides to every story, don't assume shes seeing someone, because trust is important.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted June 19, 2007 Author Posted June 19, 2007 Well another day and no word. Kinduv sucks due to the fact that we are supposed to go to spain in 7 days. Well she paid me for her ticket and hotell so if she doesnt want to go, I will just go by myself. I have prepared the relationship to be over very soon. I am supposed to drive to her house on thursday but there is a festival in a little town by my house with some great bands playing. I am thinking about going there instead. It is not worth trying if two people are not involved at all. We never talk and our communication is dwendeling very rapidly. Its just not working. I have not called her today and I am sticking to no contact for a while. It is the best thing to do. Out of sight. Out of mind. Any tips anyone?
Lucky555 Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 wow a trip in seven days to spain and she still has not contacted you..If it were me i would be so excited about it i would have to say how much fun the other person and i were going to have. Um, things seems rocky to me. So she hasn't called ugh. I don't know what could be the problem and it seems u didn't take any of my suggestions, like i said taking a trip to spain and not hearing anything about it is something. Just make sure you know what you are doing, seriously ignoring one another is not going to solve this. You should get a hold of her and tell her how you feel but be prepared if she really doesnt want to continue with this.
Author waitingwaitingonyou Posted June 20, 2007 Author Posted June 20, 2007 yeah well today she has called me but hasnt said much about trip. I am going no matter what. I am a rock climber so i am going to take my stuff with me. She paid me so if she doesnt want to go then that is her loss. I know who i am and if she doesnt like it then i will just find someone else. Not to sound cockey but i am a very good looking guy. It just seems that I always get the wierdos!
Star Gazer Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 Now come on, there are people that sit outside all day by themselves....mental institution inmates. :lmao::lmao:
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