heggs Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Well where to start once again.. Well after all I missed her party and she was not happy the next day. So i get on msn that night and she goes nuts swearing etc.. she told me shes done she gives up on us still has a bf btw . After all that she says she regrets it because she still loves me hense her getting mad. She asks to call me about it so she does we getting talkin about us, telling me why shes with the rebound bf and she still loves me. So the next few days shes calling my home and txting me saying she loves me and misses me etc. She asks me to see her that weekend for a late b day i got her a gold necklace for her present. So we go out shoppin have breakfast i made it her day so i payed for everything.. as they day went by we got close holding hands etc. About 20 mins before we about to leave we sit on a grass field waiting for my bro to pick us up. Here is where we get real close huggin and gently touching each other, on the way home we hold hands etc swe drop her home i get out.. and i hug her goodbye and she tells me I love you. So i leave about 3 hours later i get a few txts saying thank for the day I loved it, and I love you. About an hour later she asks me, Why didnt yu kiss me?,I told her yu have bf sorry and i dont wanna jeprodize anything. She replyed you love me but didnt kiss me, i told her yu need to understand thats why. And as shes leaving the next day to travel to south afirca for 3 weeks, I sent her a txt saying be safe etc. I get a return txt saying ill txt you in SA, reply to then. have a good week! xo miss you already and love you... Since seeing her its killing me i feel so lost and confused i even cryed while showering im so lost about this, i asked my girly friends they say that hes a rebound and shell leave him now and come back. IM SO CONFUSED SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!
Author heggs Posted June 18, 2007 Author Posted June 18, 2007 help from anyone is appreciated. Thank Heggs
Pixie-Minx Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 Hey hunny, sory i know what its like when u reach out and noone replys so i thought i would try and help. This girl does sound very confused. Tho how she can be with another while loving you im not sure, tho i do know people get with others to try and forget the ex, ( my ex has done just that) Personally it seems she has allot of feelings for you but doesnt wanna end up with nothing if she leaves her bloke and then isnt happy with you. The best possible ting you can do is give her space, try and dissapear off the map for a few days, no msn, no texts, no calls. Let her miss you.
Keara Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 she told me shes done she gives up on us still has a bf btw . You missed her party and she got a new bf that night? And now she's telling you she loves you etc, but she's still "with" the other guy? When this girl gets home, let her know that she needs to drop the other guy, or stop messing with your head with all the "love" words, or both. What she's doing is cruel. Never buy women jewelry while they are dating someone else. Unless its your sister or mother. If you treat her like you'll be there waiting every single second, then you'll lose her for good. Even if you let her know you aren't going to be her "guy on the side" and it doesn't work to get her back... well.. I know this is cliche, but if she really does love you and really does want to be with you, then she will dump the bf for you. Otherwise, all she's giving you is a bunch of air. And that's not terribly fair when you're bending over backward to make her happy. The main thing.. don't be at her beck and call unless she shows you that she's as committed to making this work as you are. And that can't happen while she's dating someone else. Until she dumps this guy, stick to your guns. Let her know you care, that you want to make the relationship work, but you can't be with her or talk to her unless she dumps this other guy. She had a right to be mad at you for missing the party, you apologized. She either forgives you for that and shows through action that she does, or you have to cut her out of your life until she proves she's honestly going to give the relationship her full attention.
Author heggs Posted June 19, 2007 Author Posted June 19, 2007 So I guess Ill start n/c, even though shes on holidays in another country do not reply in any shape or form? She also told me she would leave him within the next 2 months.. because hes only there to help her through. Been 3 days now going strong Any help is good Btw thank to all the last posters helped me alot
lonelybuthappy Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 So I guess Ill start n/c, even though shes on holidays in another country do not reply in any shape or form? She also told me she would leave him within the next 2 months.. because hes only there to help her through. Been 3 days now going strong Any help is good Btw thank to all the last posters helped me alot Oh my God... After all these things she done to you....You became totally doormat.Stop contact now! NC! Don't answer any calls, don't respond txts, nothing. Remember, she doesn't exist for you, don't greet her at the street at any cost. Be strong, let her wonder... Stay strong, you'll back your dignity when you'll turn to yourself
Author heggs Posted June 20, 2007 Author Posted June 20, 2007 ok well i got a msg from her in south africa didnt reply as im getting stronger with out her, just said simply, i made it safe. miss you like no other, love you. Arh felt good no reply even though i still love her.. now a delima. This girl ive known for awhile now, has asked me on a date do i go for it?, but I still love her.... and due to the fact last time she travelled to south africa i had a new gf and she came back and she wanted me back and we sorta go together but not... this is why im scared to loose her for good, but this other girl could be a new begning. WHAT TO DO?
lonelybuthappy Posted June 20, 2007 Posted June 20, 2007 ok well i got a msg from her in south africa didnt reply as im getting stronger with out her, just said simply, i made it safe. miss you like no other, love you. Arh felt good no reply even though i still love her.. now a delima. This girl ive known for awhile now, has asked me on a date do i go for it?, but I still love her.... and due to the fact last time she travelled to south africa i had a new gf and she came back and she wanted me back and we sorta go together but not... this is why im scared to loose her for good, but this other girl could be a new begning. WHAT TO DO? GO WITH OTHER GIRL, MAKE FUN, don't rush things....be a polite, friend, smile, enjoy... you have time with new girl, if spark come - great, if not , you'll find some other girl. easy... Forget old girle, don't think about her, force yourself
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