musefan Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Wow, I have been in soo much pain and I could've avoided it.. I started dating a friend of my brothers. My brother had known him 10 years and I had just met him. After we dated for about 3 months I finally told my brother. (it was a long-distance relationship) The first thing my brother said was, "Don't expect him to marry you." and then ,"He's got commitment issues" Did I listen? NO! I was already in love and I thought I would be the one to change things around! Well, here I am after almost 2 years of dating and he breaks up with me.. Instead of dealing with some issues that came up in our relationship, he ended things and said it was because I already have children and he wants his own, the distance - well anyway. This was almost 3 months ago, and I am still so devastated. I have gone on lots of dates, but I can't stop thinking of "him" At the time of the breakup I suggested to him how we could work our relationship out (he told me he loved me dearly) well, he said he would think of it and needed some time/space to do so. Then he started emailing me at least 2x's per week, but he wouldn't really say anything. I would just reply to his emails in a friendly way. Meanwhile, I get asked out very often by really nice guys, but I hold back because I haven't been able to move on because I'm waiting for him. I just thought I would give him the time he needs. I realize now, I can't do that anymore. Recently I met a really nice guy from New Zealand while on vacation, who is really sweet and very into me. So, to give my ex one last chance I sent him an email telling him I would be free in late July if he wanted to see me again (giving him plenty of time to think) but to please, let me know if he wanted to continue to only be friends, which was fine. I told him I still thought he was a great guy.. Now, this man is not a baby, he is 39. (never been married) Don't you think he would have the guts to at least email and tell me he wanted to just be friends?? The worst thing he could possibly do (and the most cowardly thing) is to not write back.. It has made me lose respect for him, but at the same time I still have so many wonderful memories of him.. It is just soo confusing.. I guess I even feel guilt for starting another relationship without the closure I was looking for.. How do I deal with the pain of not getting an email when I open my yahoo account? Anyone else dealing with a guy who is spineless and won't write or call? (though like I said, I was warned, by my very own brother.. I should have run for the hills!!) Thanks for letting me vent!! ~Musefan
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