IpAncA Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I don't hate men's toys. If there any good I want to play with them. In fact when he gets something new, I'm the first one there wanting to tinker with it. He's always telling me to get my grubby hands out of there or pushing me away. LOL!!! I actually don't care what toys he has as long as it's run by me if it's expensive. I guess I don't undersand why some would have a problem. I mean us girls have toys.
McFadden Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I agree about the toys are ok as long as they are being put to use. My father is the king of having too many toys taking up space and not using them. He has vintage cars and motorcycles filling the garage, and now we have to park on the street. The cars are not driveable and never will be, and he doesn't even know how to ride a motorcycle. They just sit there, but he won't sell them. It drives my mom insane and I have to agree with her. I like toys though, once I start my career and am making good money I will end up with some really crazy stuff.
serial muse Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 I like to play with men's toys. Snicker. Actually, I love electronic gadgets and games, and computers are quite clearly unisex, so I don't think of them as "men's" toys so much. No jetskis here, but someday I will own a boat, and I will be her captain. Oh captain my captain. My exH had an Xbox that we were both addicted to. He also had a massive screen TV (this was in the days before flatscreens). I let him have both in the divorce, because that's how I roll. Besides, I needed to focus on work and an Xbox in the house is like a very powerful, dangerous magnet. And that TV was too big to live. It required three people to carry it around. I like to travel light.
katiebour Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 The only time a hobby becomes a bone of contention is when it takes up too much of our shared living space or too much of our shared income. We live in a two-bedroom mobile home that we are fixing up beautifully... But we don't have a shed and so all the tools live in various spots in our house. Not exactly haute decor. My b/f is a packrat who loves to keep non-functioning appliances and fix them up, which is great... except when they cannot be fixed but still live in our house instead of at the dump. We just can't fit 2 extra, non-working vacuum cleaners, 2 extra non-working space heaters, a broken tv and all the other assorted junk. If we had more space I'd just designate him a room and stuff it all in there (by the way, all of the appliances mentioned above until recently did live in our house- he junked the tv after blowing out a wall socket attempting to repair it, and I think he finally got rid of one of the heaters too. Hallelujah! The vacuums are sitting by the door, waiting to be sent to their final destination.) As far as the income goes, when we are both contributing and our shared bills are paid, then any extra money that each of us has is ours to do with as we choose. But since I am the breadwinner right now, I can't see throwing our much-needed income into a hobby when it's needed to pay bills. Space and funds for hobbies are something that we both decide on, ideally. But we both live here so concessions must be made on both sides to ensure that our house doesn't overflow. But then again, my only collectibles are tea sets that fit in a 4-shelf unit on my desk here, next to my computer. I travel pretty lightly through life and so my stuff doesn't generally take up that much room. I can't remember my b/f ever saying anything about my needing to get rid of stuff to make more room, but if he did voice the complaint, I would certainly do my best to compromise and take care of the problem.
a4a Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 Women have hobbies but they are allowed to have them while a man is selfish and an overgrown child if he wants to buy a Jet Ski. My ex complained about that Jet Ski all the time but if you ask me that was better than her drinking up her paycheck. Should read: My ex could have hobbies but while she was allowed to have them I was told or treated like selfish and an overgrown child by her, because I wanted to buy a Jet Ski. Woggle some of us support our H's interests...... I am shopping for tools for him all the time. I would love to buy him a jet ski..... for him.... not for me.... he can go play on that while I watch from the boat I want and have been hinting about almost weekly. (to deaf ears) My H is not supportive of my goal to go back to competition with my horse...... so does that make all men creeps? or just him?
Citizen Erased Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 Kinda off-topic, but just wondering other people's take on this: My bf's mother is car mad. Her husband is not at all and I guess he feels a bit intimidated by her hobby because most people see it as a "man's" world blah blah. Anyway, so she a few months ago bought a HSV VL SS Group A Walkinshaw from 1988 (VERY rare car in Australia). She rarely drives it because obviously the re-sale value will not be as high. She intends to keep it for many years to come. She loves the car so much that I doubt she will sell it but that seems fine to me. Anyway, so her husband absolutely fought like hell to stop her from buying this car, but he has his brand new boat and Ute so she won that argument, went ahead and bought it. We have been staying with them for a couple of weeks because our house flooded, and it has been like hell here. They constantly fight about it. He goes on at her because she never drives it, it's old, it's dead money etc. Yet he has a boat which is almost as expensive and probably gets used less then the car, plus his camping and bike gear which would all certainly add up. So anyway what I'm thinking, yet cant say cos It's not my place to get in the middle but I have been wanting to say anyway lol, is that if the roles were reversed, wouldn't it be deemed perfectly fine that he keeps the car and she is being a whiny bitch for complaining about it, yet when she does it, it's this big waste of money and she is being selfish...
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