Woggle Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Is it jealousy that he has an interest outside of the relationship or is it something else. I really don't see what is so immature about a man having some fun in his time off. If more women had fun like men maybe they would not be so stressed all the time. It is what makes the daily grind worth it but if a man wants to have some fun with the guys many women will flip out and I don't understand why. I have a plasma tv, a home theater system, a state of the art computer, a sound system that is piped throughout the house and a jet ski. I work hard so in my mind I have the right to have these things and my wife doesn't mind because she likes her toys as well. Why do some women feel that once a man is in a commited relationship that he should have to give all this up.
Citizen Erased Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 sorry I thought for a second your title meant something else lol
tiptup Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I am a woman, and I love men's toys. I like to play with them too. I don't see any problem with it as long as he can afford the toys that he buys.
Trialbyfire Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Perhaps it's only part of the female population that don't like toys. There are men who don't care about them either. Personally, I have my own toys and have fun with them, of which some are considered male-oriented and some are considered female-oriented.
cutegirl Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I don't care if my bf has his toys as long as he pays for them himself. For awhile I was getting annoyed but that's cause he would constantly nag at me to buy him certain things and just would not let up even when I said no, it made me feel like he didn't respect me at all. He doesn't do that anymore so our relationship got bit better. I have my toys too : My Mercedes, and shopping for designer handbags ( I actually belong to a "handbag forum" where people post their bags and what they bought or what they should buy and how to spot fakes etc, and buying clothes...
luvmy2ns Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I, too, have no problem with the having and using of "men's toys." However, my ex had a problem in that he thought he should be the one to get all the toys, and I should just accept that he didn't want to foot his share of the living expenses as a result. His REAL problem was that he forgot who was the one who owned the home we lived in. Man, was he scramblin' when I finally kicked his ass out! LMAO:lmao:
directx Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Women's sex toys don't bother me at all. If I'm in the same room and girl is doing something sexual, I feel lucky enough.
quankanne Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Why do some women feel that once a man is in a commited relationship that he should have to give all this up? I don't have a problem with him having toys, as long as he puts them to good use! Why get a motorcycle if you refuse to ride it, yet you refuse to sell the damned thing when you need dental work? The damned bike doesn't do anything but sit in our garage collecting dust, and meanwhile DH whines about his teeth. DUH! or is that DEE-dee-dee? :lmao: my personal thought is that if you have used something in 6 months/one year, then it's time to reconsider owning the thing – Can someone else put it to good use more than I have? Does someone have a true need for it (clothes, in particular)? Would I be better off selling it and using the proceeds for something we really need? Frankly, I think it's sinful to hang on to crap you don't use or need, just because you're too lazy to do something with it.
bish Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Is it jealousy that he has an interest outside of the relationship or is it something else. I really don't see what is so immature about a man having some fun in his time off. Usually a man, or more specifically a married man, will acquire some toys when the marriage has calmed down a bit. More to the point, when the wife stops having sex. So a real man in that situation will have toys. Rather than go out and cheat, he has a car in the garage to keep him occupied. If the wife doesn't want to spend any time with him, he can spend it on his corvette. Better than cheating, right?
Art_Critic Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 some of my best toys the women in my life have been a big part of them.. My boat for example.. I don't boat alone.. there has to be a woman up front on the deck for the "boat fluff" To me it isn't about women hating a mans toys.. it is about interests.. they have other interests than we do.. I have always tried to make the effort to keep my SO as a big part of my toys
quankanne Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 there has to be a woman up front on the deck for the "boat fluff" surely she's useful for other stuff, too, like throwing taters ahead of the boat as she locates treestumps :laugh:
Art_Critic Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 surely she's useful for other stuff, too, like throwing taters ahead of the boat as she locates treestumps :laugh: Okay.. stump locater and boat fluff ( could be one and the same if locating the stump happens below deck ).. oh... and cook.. I'm also a big camper and have tons of camping gear..generator, chemical toilet etc etc... as well as a big hiker.. so I have a cabin in the mountains.. all these toys my SO is a big part of and participates in..
amaysngrace Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 My exH was big on toys. And most of the time I reaped the benefit of the toys he chose so it was all good like that. The only problem I had is when we couldn't afford it. But all in all the guy was a good provider so I had no worries. BTW women who mutually enjoy a man's toys won't fight him for the stuff in the divorce. That is...if they're cool.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Woggle, I don't think it is jealousy as much as some women wishing that you spend your hard-earned cash on her. Some women are just like that. The other thing that ticks us off is when guys buy the toys before the cash comes in! Women do this too but our toys are usually cheaper, like a $100 pair of shoes, not a $5000 TV. Stay out of debt, make important purchase decisions together, depending on the stage of the relationship, and make sure it is a priority (same for her new shoes). If there are roof repairs needed, or something more important, be responsible and spend the money where it's needed over new toys. If you must buy a Toy and don't want to tick her off, buy her something nice too (lingerie? perhaps)?
Touche Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Your title should have read Why do SOME women blah blah...Also, don't you think there are just as many men who watch every penny theat their wives/SO's spend. Come on! Be real. I for one, have NO problem whatsoever with my H's purchases. But maybe that's because he talks them over with me first (as I do with him.) Neither one of us just goes and buys expensive items without consulting with the other. Works for us.
Art_Critic Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I want to know when a computer became a man's toy ? If I remember correctly Woggles wife bought him his computer for Christmas..
jcster Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Sad but true, but some women have forgotten how to have fun. In the quest to be that "superwoman" that we feel we are supposed to be, our time becomes clogged with "useful" tasks. I got caught in that trap when I was married - something about owning that house brought out the freak in me. If I wasn't at work, I was cooking, cleaning, gardening, sewing, or just generally pacing. I resented my husband for being able to leave things undone and just play. I'm better now, but I'm also no longer married.
a4a Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 some of my best toys the women in my life have been a big part of them.. My boat for example.. I don't boat alone.. there has to be a woman up front on the deck for the "boat fluff" To me it isn't about women hating a mans toys.. it is about interests.. they have other interests than we do.. I have always tried to make the effort to keep my SO as a big part of my toys Boat - on my list of wants. I want the new thingy that attaches to the tractor and follows behind automatically following the fence line and weed whacks for you. My H uses my chainsaw instead of his dinky one now. I have the web cams, got new speakers for the bathrooms, I want the TV behind the bath mirror..... I want one of those new cad carving machines.... hooks to laptop and carves the design in the wood. $1800 girl toy. H owned a cookie shooter thing..... :lmao: Just chatted about how silly it was and happy he sold it in the yard sale... he protested stating he really did use it a few times! So a cookie shooter thingy was his man toy????
Mustang Sally Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 And, FWIW, the boat is mostly my toy. H likes it too, but I am the reason we have it. Also the camper. Art, I think you and I would get along great!
Pyro Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Is it jealousy that he has an interest outside of the relationship or is it something else. I really don't see what is so immature about a man having some fun in his time off. If more women had fun like men maybe they would not be so stressed all the time. It is what makes the daily grind worth it but if a man wants to have some fun with the guys many women will flip out and I don't understand why. I have a plasma tv, a home theater system, a state of the art computer, a sound system that is piped throughout the house and a jet ski. I work hard so in my mind I have the right to have these things and my wife doesn't mind because she likes her toys as well. Why do some women feel that once a man is in a commited relationship that he should have to give all this up. I don't know what type of women you have dealt with in your life, but that has never been a problem to me. Even the worst GF's that I have had in the past have never had any problems with my "toys". If a guy decides to have a relationship, but he also has many "toys", then he better be willing to cut some of that time away from the "toys" and use that time with the SO, otherwise why have a relationship?
alphamale Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Why do some women feel that once a man is in a commited relationship that he should have to give all this up. coz in her mind's eye her mans toys take attention away from her. little does she realize that if he did get rid of all his toys then she would leave him.
Pyro Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 little does she realize that if he did get rid of all his toys then she would leave him. What?
justagirliegirl Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Darn I thought this was going to be about butt plugs. Are you saying that women have no outside interests? What do they do for hobbies then? I have my own toys. High end electronics, art stuff.
Author Woggle Posted June 18, 2007 Author Posted June 18, 2007 Darn I thought this was going to be about butt plugs. Are you saying that women have no outside interests? What do they do for hobbies then? I have my own toys. High end electronics, art stuff. Women have hobbies but they are allowed to have them while a man is selfish and an overgrown child if he wants to buy a Jet Ski. My ex complained about that Jet Ski all the time but if you ask me that was better than her drinking up her paycheck.
justagirliegirl Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Women have hobbies but they are allowed to have them while a man is selfish and an overgrown child if he wants to buy a Jet Ski. My ex complained about that Jet Ski all the time but if you ask me that was better than her drinking up her paycheck. That still is my ex's hobby. He and his bottle make beautiful music together.
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