sweetprincess78 Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 so ive been thinking a lot about this..and i have decided to tell the guy i like that i like him...the only problem is ...im pretty sure he doesn't like me back..yet i just want to tell him..so that i can get it off my chest and move on...if i keep it in..i won't be able to move on even if i know he doesn't like me..i also believe that stuff like this shoudln't remain unspoke..life is too short for all of this...i have no prob with telling him cuz im not expecting anything back..its just...will he think its weird..i don't want to scare him off..wat do u guys thinks..if a girl told u she liked u and she didn't expect anything from u..how would u guys react?
IpAncA Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Personally I wouldn't say anything and move on. I think deep down your hoping by telling him he'll surprise you with liking you back.
jerbear Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 If you can't move on because you kept it in, then by all means tell the person then move on. Now how well do you know the person? Being a devil's advocate: Being a guy, if a girl told me she liked me and I liked her for sexual purposes, I would pursue it and get some booty. Being a "better" person: Thank you for your interests but I'm not interested in being your bf, if you can't handle it, we should end this.
alphamale Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 if a girl told u she liked u and she didn't expect anything from u..how would u guys react? I'd probably ask her for FWB setup
norajane Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Tell him you used to have a crush on him. If he's interested in you, that'll get his attention and he'll start pursuing you. If he's not interested, no harm done.
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 so ive been thinking a lot about this..and i have decided to tell the guy i like that i like him...the only problem is ...im pretty sure he doesn't like me back..yet i just want to tell him..so that i can get it off my chest and move on...if i keep it in..i won't be able to move on even if i know he doesn't like me..i also believe that stuff like this shoudln't remain unspoke..life is too short for all of this...i have no prob with telling him cuz im not expecting anything back..its just...will he think its weird..i don't want to scare him off..wat do u guys thinks..if a girl told u she liked u and she didn't expect anything from u..how would u guys react? SweetPrincess, you know that's not true. You DO expect something back from him. You're expecting him to react in some way. People don't do anything without expecting something, in return. As simple as that. The theory that you have to tell him "because you don't want to lose the chance", is similar to a situation where a person on a diet thinks "I have to eat this last piece of dessert, because if I don't eat it, I'll have to throw it away". If you want to tell him, then go ahead. I don't see any problem in you doing that.
lindya Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 If you have the courage to tell someone you like them, when you don't get the impression you like them back, then great. Act on that courage. Sometimes the outcome isn't that relevant; what matters is the sense of personal achievement in conquering fear and just doing that thing that frightens you. I like NJ's suggestion of telling him you used to have a crush on him. You can smile and say it in a light-hearted flirty way. That gives him a nice compliment without putting him on the spot to come out with a response. If you don't get the response you want, remember that very few successful people out there got where they were without weathering any number of failures first.
Nemo Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 If you want to tell him, then go ahead. Great, straightforward advice.
Nemo Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 yes I like nora's suggestion... But you will get put in the friend zone, and there will be no way out.
alphamale Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 Tell him you used to have a crush on him. If he's interested in you, that'll get his attention and he'll start pursuing you. If he's not interested, no harm done. I would never go up to some woman and say "I used to like you"....thats moronic and I would totally see thru it. My life experience shows that if you like someone and you've never had a relationship with them then you'll like them forever. Who the hell says that?
lindya Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 I would never go up to some woman and say "I used to like you"....thats moronic and I would totally see thru it. I've had a guy tell me "I had a major crush on you back then"...and it didn't come across as moronic at all. He said it with a twinkle in his eye, and it was really quite sexy and appealing. That said, he was someone from a particular scene I used to frequent, who I hadn't bumped into in ages - and by that stage he was happily involved with someone. If it's said by someone you see on a regular basis, I suppose the first thought might be "what do you mean used to? What's wrong with me now???"
Nemo Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 I would never go up to some woman and say "I used to like you"....thats moronic and I would totally see thru it. My life experience shows that if you like someone and you've never had a relationship with them then you'll like them forever. Who the hell says that? Yes, I agree. Kind of like giggly schoolgirl stuff. I used to like you, before I found out what you are really like.
alphamale Posted June 23, 2007 Posted June 23, 2007 I've had a guy tell me "I had a major crush on you back then"...and it didn't come across as moronic at all. He said it with a twinkle in his eye, and it was really quite sexy and appealing. That said, he was someone from a particular scene I used to frequent, who I hadn't bumped into in ages - and by that stage he was happily involved with someone. well thats different.....I ran into a chick at my 10 year high school reunion and confessed that I liked her in high school (I was hammered too). but that was a decade later and she was already living abroad. it was just nostalgic, I wasn't trying to start anything.
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