peechy06 Posted June 17, 2007 Posted June 17, 2007 After dating my ex for a year and a half, my ex is back together with his ex who he supposedly hasn't talked to for 2 years! He has never admitted this to me, but I have his ex's screen name and her away messages sometimes say they are with him (we will call my ex J). We have been on and off for the past 3 months but J still text messages me and tells me he still loves me and we have talked on the phone a couple times. We have even hung out once. He says he is not truly happy without me but just doesn't have time for a relationship b/c he just started his first full time job and works till 7 or 8 every night. He wants to be friends but I told him no b/c thats too hard for me and when he is ready for a relationship he can call me and maybe I will be single. I haven't told him that I know he has been seeing his ex b/c I don't want to start and argument with him and I know he will deny it no matter what evidence I have, plus I am currently not talking to him. I am pretty sure he broke up with me to be with her...what other explaination is there for his wierd behavior of suddenly not wanting a relationship? I think work is an excuse, and an awful one at that. So my quesiton is...why would you get back together with an ex after 2 years? We had an amazing relationship!! He also told me that she cheated on him and thats why he broke up with her! So why doesn't he just tell me the truth?! Any insight would be so helpful...I just don't understand why a guy would give up a good thing to get back with an ex who apparently cheated on him!!!! Any input from the guys??? Please!
norajane Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 The work thing is an excuse, as you know. Everyone has jobs, and many often work that late. That is no reason not to have a relationship. If he's back with his ex, that's because that's where he wants to be. Why? Who knows? My guess is unfinished business - she cheated on him and he never got over her. Is he foolish for doing so - probably. But there's nothing you can do about that except be grateful that you found out now rather than a year from now that he's the kind of guy who'd go running back to his cheating ex as soon as he could. You're doing very well in not wanting to be 'friends' or talking to him or responding to his stupid texts - he's trying to keep you on the back-burner in case things don't work out with the ex. Stick to no contact and start meeting other people who will be more available to love and appreciate a great girl like you.
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