NightsInWhiteSatin Posted June 17, 2007 Posted June 17, 2007 I've noticed some common traits with the way men have treated me I have been treated as the bit on the side of their relationships which i didn't know they had. I have been treated as a bit on the side of their jobs. I have been treated as a bit on the side of their friends and social circle. I have been treated as a bit on the side of their hobbies. I have been treated as a bit on the side of their potential to find someone better. I have been treated as a bit on the side of themselves their ego. I've been treat as the bit on the side to everything i could possibly be treated as the bit on the side to. What is this, why is this? With everyman. Yet they say they respect you. When really they're treating you like ****. what do i do!
nittygritty Posted June 17, 2007 Posted June 17, 2007 I've noticed some common traits with the way men have treated me I have been treated as the bit on the side of their relationships which i didn't know they had. I have been treated as a bit on the side of their jobs. I have been treated as a bit on the side of their friends and social circle. I have been treated as a bit on the side of their hobbies. I have been treated as a bit on the side of their potential to find someone better. I have been treated as a bit on the side of themselves their ego. I've been treat as the bit on the side to everything i could possibly be treated as the bit on the side to. What is this, why is this? With everyman. Yet they say they respect you. When really they're treating you like ****. what do i do! I think that this may possibly be either your perception of how a relationship should be or that you are attracted to emotionally unavailable men. Either way, your going to have to change in order for your relationships to change. If perception is the problem, you need to realize that the level of commitment grows the longer and more positive the relationship. You have to meet the emotional relationship needs of your partner and choose a partner that meets your emotional relationship needs as well. Either work through the compatibility differences or end the relationship if the differences are too great to overcome. If you are subconsciously picking emotionally unavailable men then its possible that subconsciously you are emotionally unavailable as well. I realize that most of the time it is just a crapshoot and also that there are alot of emotionally unavailable people but if your relationship history is comprised totally of emotionally unavailable men and that is the kind of guy that you are attracted to, then this is your issue. Try to figure out why you may feel more comfortable with these type of relationships and do the inner work thats required to make better choices or find a guy that is not "over the top" in the realm of emotional unavailability, meaning a guy that can meet your emotional unavailability relationship need but is still capable of being in a committed monogamous healthy relationship. Does that make any sense? A guy capable of personal growth despite being slightly aloof.
laRubiaBonita Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 I've noticed some common traits with the way men have treated me I have been treated as the bit on the side of their relationships which i didn't know they had. I have been treated as a bit on the side of their jobs. I have been treated as a bit on the side of their friends and social circle. I have been treated as a bit on the side of their hobbies. I have been treated as a bit on the side of their potential to find someone better. I have been treated as a bit on the side of themselves their ego. I've been treat as the bit on the side to everything i could possibly be treated as the bit on the side to. What is this, why is this? With everyman. Yet they say they respect you. When really they're treating you like ****. what do i do! What you do is gain some REAL self respect, and NOT allow men to treat as if you are aside. If you do not allow it, they will not do it.
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