bede86 Posted June 17, 2007 Posted June 17, 2007 Okay, now When I'm out in town I see guy's and girls kissing dancing then go back to each other's places for the night, most of which just met that night, now Ive done that a few times as most males and females would do at least once or twice in there lives. But where's the love? I see people going out because they find each other attractive and its physical relationship, she ignores the fact hes a douche bag who doesn't respect her and he ignores the fact she's missing half her brain and idolizes social parasites like Paris Hilton. I feel sometimes that I'm the last person left looking for love, I don't want to sleep with a thousand girls, just one....yet with this view I feel so alone, whatever happened to "Casablanca styled" I grew up watching movie's like Love story and When Harry met Sally...maybe this has given me a false sense of fantasy styled love...or maybe thats what love use to be like....I just don't get it.
Tony T Posted June 17, 2007 Posted June 17, 2007 There is love out there but it's hard to find. Keep looking. We live in an age of selfishness, selfcenteredness and narcissism. People are generally looking out for themselves, especially at an early age. It's a generational thing. Different people become indifferent and selfish for various reasons. I think that people in their twenties now will pretty much be out for themselves when they're 60. I'm not judging that as either good or bad but if you're out for a mutual relationship based on caring, admiration and respect you may have a hard time. On the other hand, if you're looking for a good time and a mutual screwover, wow, you picked a good time to be out in the market. I really don't know when this all changed but I'm with you, it is sad.
LoveLace Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 It does appear to be dying out...due to a few causes, I think. I'm an example of a 30 yr. old who doesn't even a boyfriend...but I'm dying to have a family...there are more and more like me, who are attractive enough, like myself. But I still feel a lot of pressure physically, what am I supposed to think when the only guys I find attractive are only talking to women way hotter than me? But more and more women are putting career before family as well. Women are more independent and I think it intimidates men, it makes them afraid of being hurt by her later. They are less likely to puruse her or die trying. They might make effort once, but if the result isn't clear enough, men just seem to give up too easily. Also, the independent women who say they don't "need a man" (nothing wrong with that...) are more likely to be accepting of casual sex. This lessens the liklihood of a man wanting to get serious, maybe not all men but probably most. More and more women express a negative attitude towards marriage. Men are not as willing to work hard at being romantic,etc. Deep down, a lot of men probably wish it was like the historical times when the wife just lived to cook, clean and make him happy. Society is way different now.
Shan2k Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 The new generation, 25 and under, are going to have it worse off. Men and women are fighting for independence and superiority in relationships and casual sex is "what's in." You're lucky! Just keep looking!
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