the_Jason Posted June 17, 2007 Posted June 17, 2007 I have known my friend for seven years. We did everything together growing up. I would spend the night at his house for days during the summer. Every weekend I would come over. His mother is like my mother. Her and I have a very good relationship, I'm like a son to her. But the past year he has changed. We have always wanted to move in together when we were out of high school. So Last year we decided we would, and we are also going to the same college. We've been planning the move for some time now. But I'm having second thoughts. He is very... I don't know what the word is. I don't even think I can explain it. But he likes to prove me wrong, and I like to prove him wrong in everything. I'll admit it, but he won't. He's always sad ( history of a strong depression, suicidal ). I'm always happy. Even when something bad/sad happens to me, I don't let it bring me down. I take care of it and move on. He thinks to hard on stuff, fueling his depression I guess. I guess were the total opposites. I do my best to handle everything in an adult manner, even though sometimes it can get blah. Me still being 18, him being 17. We both have alot to learn. We don't fight alot, but when we do fight its rough. It's like a nuclear explosion from everything building up inside him. I have started telling him on the spot how I feel or something. I believe its helped alot on fights. I'm very laid back and shy. Anyways, I'm working 60 hours a week. From the start of the summer till now. So I can move out and go to school. Thats always been my goal through high school, and I'm working my way to it. He also was working at the time of graduation. I wasn't ( the job I have now didn't hire anyone under 18, was good money, did the math and me waiting two weeks after graduation was worth it ). But this brought up the argument that I should get a job NOW and start saving for school. I told him the facts but he still kinda played "dad" in the situation. Which I never like. Soon after that conversation I got my job after I turned 18 as planned. He sadly, lost his job he had around the same time. This is where I'm starting to doubt moving in with him. I'll give him some credit, he has been looking for a job. But almost two months of looking and he can't get a job? Not even a fast food one? Anything? I can't believe it really. I feel REALLY bad for him. He has no money in the bank, maybe 100 dollars. Maybe. He likes to hang out with his other friends and drink. Which I'm not a fan of. So I don't know if he pays for that. I don't know what to do. After meeting these friends and hanging out with him. He has become very distant with me. He never wanted to do anything with me. Not to be selfish but before he met them he would come to me to hang. Now I rarely get a phone call or IM to hang out. It's fine, I don't hold a grudge but it was a very sudden change. He needs at least one grand to move up with me. He should really be aiming higher so hes not screwed if he can't find work up there while we go to school. It's just good to have alot more then you need you know? I don't know if he can even get the money now that were moving in a month. He says he can borrow it from his parents, but that just shows me hes not reliable as a roommate. He is very smart. He knows hes getting real close to not being able to move. Its not like he has no idea. His intentions are good, just his actions prove otherwise. So: Should I tell him he needs to find another roommate? I don't want to room with someone who has shown to be irrisponsable, lazy, and fights alot. I just don't want to deal with that crap when I'm in college. I wan't to focus on my school work and not have to worry if the rent will be paided this month... But I could also lose a friend. Because I know him and he will take it to the extreme and probably stop talking to me. Which I don't want. I would pretty much be bailing on him. On the other hand, I can stay roommates with him. Knowing what I'm getting myself into I won't get mad or anything. I'll handle it the best I can. Life is unfair sometimes. I will also be risking our friendship because living together will probably result in arguments. I would never leave him over a fight, but he might leave me. He's done it before.
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