tinke Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 HELP! feeling blue today. need your support. my 10 yr relationship suddenly ended 4 mo. ago. last 3 yrs LD, however we visited every 3 mo. i received a superficial, brief e-mail that he is no longer interested. i was to move with him and marry in the near future. no replies from him for 6 wks., then i was told he was engaged and to wed soon. (aquaintance) well, slowly, i have come to terms that it is over, however, i am still having some bad times accepting the way in which it was done. after so long, i would think an explanation was due, some sort of apology, closure, etc. instead he ran, and barely could speak to me (via phone) for 5 min. i just do not see how someone could be so cold, so righteous and feel no need to even discuss this with me. i am slowly learning of course, he couldn't even discuss this prior to him cheating, so why now. i feel as though a mockery was made of our relationship, and it hurts to think i was dismissed so coldly and so readily. not only to date, but to jump into marriage!!!! he was very distant, never asked me not to call, etc. however, never returned my calls.(nor answered). just need a little tlc. thanks!
Miss_Bee Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Oh I'm so sorry that you are going through this. What a spineless arse! To leave with nothing more than an email. I'm going through a break up also, however I was the one that ended it. It doesn't make it any easier, I had no other choice in the matter. Just try to stay strong, and keep posting here, you'll get all the support that you need. This place is great
Touche Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Was it really so sudden and unexpected? Why did it go to LD after seven years? That would have been the first sign that things weren't as they should be I would think. I'm sorry you're going through this though. It must be tough.
Author tinke Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 the LD was work related and i was left with family obligations. he did make the effort to visit as often as possible. by the way..i had asked for SUPPORT! I ALREADY KNOW HOW TO FEEL BAD!
Author tinke Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 that is after the break-up e-mail, he never asked me not to call, but did not reply to any of mine. i would expect this behavior from a younger man, but not one of age. why would someone be so cowardly as to not even face the situation they had initiated?
Miss_Bee Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 that is after the break-up e-mail, he never asked me not to call, but did not reply to any of mine. i would expect this behavior from a younger man, but not one of age. why would someone be so cowardly as to not even face the situation they had initiated? He's probably ashamed of how he took such a cowardly approach to end a relationship of 10 years.
Touche Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 the LD was work related and i was left with family obligations. he did make the effort to visit as often as possible. by the way..i had asked for SUPPORT! I ALREADY KNOW HOW TO FEEL BAD! uh, excuse me? I wasn't trying to make you feel bad at all! I was being sympathetic. Just sounded like it was over before this. That's all I was saying. Hope you feel better soon. I'll stay off your thread.
Steveto Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Wow.. 10 years is a long time. You'd think he would have the balls enough to say, hey, this ain't working out, I don't know why, but I'm not feeling it. Maybe in his own pea brain, he thinks if he ignores you he won't hurt you as much as if he told you what his true feelings are. To me, no closure means a lot of sleepless nights...and a lot of distraction in your life. I've been burned on a number of occassions, so in a way...I have that massive great wall of China up blocking people from getting close..you don't need that..keep the wall down..move forward..really.. talk to us...I need someone to talk to as well..every time I try to get back into the relationship game...something goes wrong..and I just have to laugh..it's that bad..I'm like..oh great.."here we go again"...and I always learn from my mistake so every damn relationship ends in a completely different way. think of all the good times and memories..make new ones with someone new. *hug* Steve
Author tinke Posted June 18, 2007 Author Posted June 18, 2007 thank you steve. i guess being LD it is so much easier to ignore me and continue on with something new..coward! but jump right into marriage???? i guess i know i have to face what it truly is, but i am so let down by the way in which he conducted himself. disregard for me! it is a surreal experience. with each passing week, i am believing it more, but as you said, there really isn't any closure.
kali420 Posted June 19, 2007 Posted June 19, 2007 This guy is a scumbag. He doesn't have the descency to explain. I totally agree on the comments of needing some closure as well too. Someone once told me that some relationships end without closure too. Sometimes thats fine. You just need to leave it at that.
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