MuNky Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 All right I know some of you might say "eeeuw!" or "gross!", but hear me out: My divorced dad (about 50y) started dating this woman (A) 4 years ago. I once met her daughter (B), which is year younger than me (I'm currently 24) in passing. I realized she is out of my league - I am a bit overweight and nerdy, she is quite attractive and a social butterfly. Now before I continue, some of you might think that I already had a non-platonic attraction to B by comparing "leagues". Well since I am a shy, with low self-esteem, its sort of a mental reaction I get with any girl I meet. Anyway my dad stayed in another town than me, so contact with them (Dad, A & B) was rare. I eventually moved to my dad's town after he offered me a job at his company. Dad married A. I never really had contact with B, only, like I've said, in passing. B decided to go on a working holiday overseas. We started hanging out together the 2 weeks before she left. She remarked that it is sad that we didn't hang out more, since she says I am a nice guy and quite sweet and caring and I am actually quite cool and funny (all her words). Now 9 months later she came back on Thursday for a visit for the next 3 weeks. Last night (Fri) we went clubbing, where she caught up with some of her friends. Well we all got a little drunk, me not so much since I am taking medication where it is not recommended to drink. In her drunken state she confided in me that she is very insecure about her looks and personality. I kept complimenting her to boost her self-esteem. But before this she introduced me to everyone that I am her "darling brother". She also gave a lot of hugs and pecks on the cheek to me throughout the night. When I realized she is drinking too much I sobered her up by ordering water for her every round. She got reasonably sober. I had a drink or two, but I was reasonably sober as well. When I took her home she asked if she can stay with me, (I live in a garden apartment at my fathers house). Since she doesn't want to wake up the house. This was about 3am. I said sure, but my mind started racing at the possibility of something, since I do have a crush on her. (She is the girl that treated me the nicest ever). Well as she laid there, I valiantly offered to sleep in my chair. She said no, that is ridiculous I should lay in the bed next to her... She rolled over, put her head and arm on my chest. Now I am staring wide-eyed at the ceiling! I am aroused but, she is my step-sister! After a while I whispered "Are you asleep?" she said no, then she looked at me and we (both of us reached!) slowly kissed. Well my hand started creeping and I kissed her neck and went down, I paused and asked her if she is ok with what is happening. She replied that nothing is wrong, sort of surprised that I am asking such a stupid question, so I undressed her slowly, I could feel that she is quite comfortable with what is happening. She took of my shirt, I leaped out of bed to double check all the locks of my apartment. I continued undressing her. I gave her oral sex, she climaxed, I realized that I am not ready, I told her that and she said it doesn't matter, and I should relax. So I my lips glided over her body again, a lot of kissing, well I played with her and she climaxed a second time. I told her again I am not ready, she said its fine, and I replied that if she is happy, then I am happy. She drifted of to sleep. I laid there wide eyed. I couldn't sleep. I started readying my apartment to hide any evidence of what happened, I paced around biting my lip, realizing that if anybody found out, that life would get a lot difficult. My dad treats her like his own, and she once told me that she loves my dad more than her own dad. I have the world of respect for her mom. Oh god I thought, oh god... So I laid there watching her sleep. When after about one or two hours she wakes up, I told her we should talk, she gave me the idea that I should calm down, and that she had a good time. We joked about how we are going to hide what happened, and how I "am looking after your daughter ma'am". Anyway I gave her some of my pajamas to wear so that if we get caught out that it would look innocent that she spent the night with me. This morning we went out for breakfast with her mum (A). I think that she suspects nothing, and she assumes that last night was innocent. (B) is walking and talking like nothing has happened. We are going clubbing again tonight... Now, should I treat this as a one time incident, should I have a secret holiday fling with her? Should I wash my soul with bleach? She is currently visiting a school friend but our family will meet in about one hour...afterwards we plan to go clubbing. PS: I know I posted on another sub-forum, but I just realized that this sub-forum might be a better fit for the subject.
jcster Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 The family associations make it a bit of a tangle - but I don't think you did anything wrong. It's not as if you grew up with this woman. More importantly, I think that you should go slowly with this girl emotionally, since she's the "first girl that's treated you nicely." PS - you can probably spare us the play by play next time, ok?
che_jesse Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 That's rude Backseat modding makes you cool. Now, should I treat this as a one time incident, should I have a secret holiday fling with her? Should I wash my soul with bleach? [/Quote] Since all of this makes you so freaked out you should sit her down, tell her it wont ever happen again, and make sure you establish some very clear lines for your relationship. Keep in mind that on her side of things this probably happened with you because you are "safe". You cant really dump or avoid your step sister. I doubt she would want to take it any further.
IpAncA Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Now, should I treat this as a one time incident, should I have a secret holiday fling with her? Should I wash my soul with bleach? She is currently visiting a school friend but our family will meet in about one hour...afterwards we plan to go clubbing. PS: I know I posted on another sub-forum, but I just realized that this sub-forum might be a better fit for the subject. As for my advice I would stop seeing her but if you can't then you can't.
johan Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 I recommend you submit this to Penthouse. The ending needs work, but it's worthy. I think she's trouble.
Storyrider Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 I thought the details were the best part. You were getting me all worked up. I would chalk this up to a fun, enriching experience and try like hell not to do it again. It will come to trouble eventually. If you stop it at this point you will still be friends. Remember, you'll be asking her to pass the potatoes at every family holiday for years to come.
jcster Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 That's rude, he was telling his story and was not posting any violations. Nice how the "regulars" like to dictate to newer posters how to tell their story. If you don't like the post, don't respond. I thought his question was valid and interesting, so I wanted to respond. I personally was a little put off by the "letter to penthouse" part of it. I'm always amazed when people write in for relationship advice and then post very personal details about their object of interest. I would have a hard time looking my new lover in the eye after posting all the juicy details of our first sexual experience together on a message board. I guess I'm just an uptight bitch, sorry for being so rude.
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