JustMe2201 Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 I posted a few days ago my story. You all offered it was wise to clean my own house first and I have decided I will. Tonight my husband wanted to have sex. We haven't had sex since February 11th of this year when he raped me. He asks all the time and I just say not now. Not in the mood. So tonight he gets home from work and says, "Wanna do it?" I said, "No. Bad news...I don't think I ever will." He said, "Ever?" I said, "I don't think so." He said, "That's a problem for me." I didn't say anything. He asked if I was physically attracted to him. I said, "It's bigger than something like just that." He was about to leave to take our son out. I didn't want to get into it with him. But after Sunday I am going to tell him it's just over. There's no point. Not sure how I am going to start the conversation. But I'm determined to do it.
pureinheart Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 I am so sorry that your H did that to you....I didn't read your other thread, so forgive me if I am repeating what others might have suggested. Your H has some very serious issues....I hope you get some counceling, as this is a horrible matter to have to face alone....GBU, my prayers are with you.....
scaredinlove Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Be safe, i hope he dosen't try to heart you.i am not familiar with your story either. Sorry for what happened in Feb. Good luck!!!!!!!
sadbuttrue Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 justme, my ex-husband did the same thing to me, repeatedly. i finally got away from him. i hope you are able to protect yourself and remove yourself from harm. it has been a couple of years since my abuse, and i still have problems dealing with the aftermath. good luck.
Curmudgeon Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 He was about to leave to take our son out. I didn't want to get into it with him. But after Sunday I am going to tell him it's just over. There's no point. Not sure how I am going to start the conversation. But I'm determined to do it. Before you say anything to him contact an abused women's shelter and ask their advice about how best to go about this. Also, have realistic escape plans ready to be put to use whether it's staying with family or friends. If you want him to leave then file for separation or divorce, stipulate that he is to be removed from the home and have a protective order from the court issued on the basis of prior abuse. That way you can have the police there as peace-keepers while he moves his things out. Have him served somewhere other than at home. It doesn't sound like simply telling him will be in your best interests. He could turn violent. Protect yourself and your son.
PoshPrincess Posted June 18, 2007 Posted June 18, 2007 Well done! This is the best thing for you and your family. I hope everything works out ok for you. Take care x
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