ladybird Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 Hi, What is the general feeling on this? I have met a really nice guy. He is not my usual type physically and I can't say that I fancy him but he is very nice and very funny - good company. we made tentative arrangements to go out and I am waiting for him to call. But I am almost hoping he doesn't call. I have not really 'dated' anyone in years - very rusty!! I had a brief relationship recently with someone who moved away who I admit I still have strong feelings for so this maybe what is in the back of my mind as I would like this relationship to continue when he comes back (if he is still interested of course). Would it be wrong to go out with this new man knowing that it really wouldn't be going anywhere? I feel like it would be nice to go out as I need the practice! but feel that I would be stringing him along and don't want to waste his time or hurt his feelings.
Tony T Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 Hi, What is the general feeling on this? I have met a really nice guy. He is not my usual type physically and I can't say that I fancy him but he is very nice and very funny - good company. we made tentative arrangements to go out and I am waiting for him to call. But I am almost hoping he doesn't call. I have not really 'dated' anyone in years - very rusty!! I had a brief relationship recently with someone who moved away who I admit I still have strong feelings for so this maybe what is in the back of my mind as I would like this relationship to continue when he comes back (if he is still interested of course). Would it be wrong to go out with this new man knowing that it really wouldn't be going anywhere? I feel like it would be nice to go out as I need the practice! but feel that I would be stringing him along and don't want to waste his time or hurt his feelings. There's nothing at all wrong with dating at this time as long as you make it clear to the guys that your heart is not available...that there is somebody you are interested in but they are away right now. If they still want to date you, then YOU have to decide if they are doing so just to have a good time or if they are HOPING that they can win out over the guy you're waiting for. I think, for your own good, that you shouldn't put your life on hold for somebody who's not around, but that's your decision. Just be honest with those who want to date you and you should be almost fine.
Driver Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 You mentioned that you only had a "brief relationship" with the guy you seem to be putting yourself on hold for. He moved away, and right now, the official relationship is nonexistent! I think it would be wonderful for you to free yourself and allow yourself to date another guy without assuming it will go nowhere. Why pass up the opportunity to possibly meet the guy of your dreams just because you want to wait for a guy you dated briefly? Besides, if he does move back, and you and he still do want a relationship, you'll have some good dating experience!
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