monica.christine Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 That is what I recently heard from the guy I've been with for about a year and a half. A little of the back story... There was drama around our relationship since the very beginning, due to the immaturity of my old group of friends (basically a friend of a friend liked him and I had no idea ). Well, we made it through that just fine. Eventually we moved in together, and everything was great. Then he left for school for a year. We were two hours apart, and only saw eachother like two days out of the week, because I didn't have a car at that time. Well he finally moved back home, and yet again we made it through and everything was perfect. Recently, he was acting a little different and he finally told me that he loves me, but isn't sure if he sees me as a friend or as a girlfriend. I did not see this coming what so ever. He still tells me he loves me all the time, still wants to cuddle, etc. all the time, and we still always have so much fun. I'm SO confused. On top of everything, he's a little of a commitment phobe . (due to his ex; we both have four year relationships under our belt) I have no idea what to do or what he really means because he is constantly contradicting himself. I'm so lost and hurt! Does anyone have any ideas to why he may be doing this or what I can do?!
trent25 Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 Sounds like some chick spit on him in the past. Very hard to trust or commit once you have been hurt. When a guy says that it means he cares very much for you, but is not in love with you because a) you could hurt him b) he thinks he can find someone better. But if you haven't earned his trust in a year and a half, I don't know. But some tramp hurt him bad, and that is why he is acting like this.
socialight Posted June 16, 2007 Posted June 16, 2007 to me love is either YES or NO. Anyone who is going to start that wishy washy crap, toe hell with them, dump his ass and move on. And for god's sake don't move in with another guy until you are engaged.
Author monica.christine Posted June 18, 2007 Author Posted June 18, 2007 Ok so I definitely agree that his ex hurt him bad...I knew that before he told me... BUT I was engaged previously, ended it because he was abusive (physically and emotionally), and was left homeless. So I completely understand how much this can hurt. But he just can't get it that I understand nor that I've been thru sh*t in the past too. I am at just such a loss because he now told me he wants to try and work things out...try to get that "spark" back. And as far as moving in, it was because I got kicked out of my living situation when we started dating because I was with him. "There was drama around our relationship since the very beginning, due to the immaturity of my old group of friends (basically a friend of a friend liked him and I had no idea ). Well, we made it through that just fine." In light of him saying he wants to try and work it out (to get that "spark" back)...what should I do?! I want to so bad, but it is tearing me apart
Author monica.christine Posted June 19, 2007 Author Posted June 19, 2007 Oh and I forgot to mention he's my best friend...which makes it harder because normally you vent to your best friend What do you do when you need to cry on your best friend's shoulder, but it's about them??
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