lostlove2007 Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 I have been separated from my husband for about a month. I don't know exactly what the separation is to accomplish. I asked my husband to leave after things weren't going well. We talk to each other daily, and see each other for dinner a few times a week. I guess I was hoping that the separation would help push us in one direction or another...either towards divorce or towards working things out. We are in counseling, but I don't see that anything has been done to help us figure out our situation by the separation. He wants to come back to try to work on things, and I believe that it is better that we stay apart. I just don't want to be around. He tried to stay the night and It felt awkward. We ended up in separate beds before the night was over. Do you think we need to see each other less, or should we continue to see and talk to each other daily? I guess I don't know what a separation should look like. I'm sure all cases are different, but part of me feels that seeing him and talking to him daily isn't allowing us to have the space to truly figure out what we want. How long to stay separated before making a decision? Do you date other people during a separation? At what point does it become "stringing each other along"??
quiet1one1 Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 See if you can get a hold of a copy of the book "Should I Stay or Go?". It proposes and outlines "Controlled" Separations. Made a lot of sense to me.
Author lostlove2007 Posted June 15, 2007 Author Posted June 15, 2007 Thanks, I'll go try to find it today!
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