satori22 Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 Hi, My boyfriend has terminal cancer and is on the other side of the world. I only have contact with him through email now. Although he chose to go away to be alone when he got sick, I know he is very lonely annd probably scared as well. I write him everyday and I know my emails are sometimes the highlight of his day. So I want to use them as much as possible to cheer him up, make him smile, and to let him know I am here for him and that I love him. I write about my day a lot, and I have sent pictures and cartoons and one e-card. I need more ideas though for when my life gets uninteresting, haha. I know he will like anything I send but I want to maximize the potential of my emails to make him feel better as much as possible, and also just want to change it up every now and then. Any suggestions at all will be very much appreciated. Thanks. Satori
Art_Critic Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 How about a plane ticket to someplace where you could meet him at..maybe for the weekend...
Author satori22 Posted June 14, 2007 Author Posted June 14, 2007 Yes, well that would be wonderful of course, but it is out of the question. I have, of course, tried to see him, but he refuses. He doesn't want me to see him as he is now or for me to be there when he goes. He thinks it will be way too hard on me, which is why he went away in the first place. I have to respect his wishes. Also, it takes a very long time to get a visa for the country where he is currently living so it would likely be too late even if I could somehow convince him. So please help me make the best of this situation.
BohemeRose Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 Maybe send little surveys for him to answer about obscure, but fun, things you don't know about each other. Have him fill it out and send it back, then you can send your answers to him. Stuff like, your funniest childhood memory or the worst movie he's ever seen and why. Just light, random stuff like that. Try sending him good websites to go to, as well. Maybe there's an online game or something you two can play together, too.
Author satori22 Posted June 14, 2007 Author Posted June 14, 2007 BohemeRose, Thanks so much for your advice. I hadn't thought of surveys. He often doesn't have the strength or energy to respond to my emails in length. Sometimes he just says "i loved your email, please write again soon so I can smile again." So I may send him some and see if he will do them, but he would at least enjoy reading my responses. I sent him a few video clips from youtube today, and he really liked those. I think things he can click on and see immediately are best since he can't be up too long. If you have any other suggestions please let me know. Thanks again. Satori
Art_Critic Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 Maybe there's an online game or something you two can play together, too. That's a great idea.. Pogo is a great free online community for spades and games like word whomp.. You can play each other in a private area.. just google pogo
whichwayisup Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 I am sorry that you're going through this, and I can only imagine how hard this is for you both... Definately great advice given. Another thing to do is take pictures of yourself everyday, doing various things, and send them off to him.
Author satori22 Posted June 16, 2007 Author Posted June 16, 2007 Thanks for the suggestions. I really like the one about sending pictures of myself in my day to day life. Games are not exactly going to work since he is 7 hours ahead of me and since he cannot stay up for very long at all. It would only work if there is some kind of game (preferably chess) which can be played via email at one's leisure. Does anyone know of a game like this? If you have any other suggestions, please let me know. Thanks so much for your help.
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