cynicalnlove Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 I’m sure there are threads that contain almost or the same situation that I am about to discuss in this thread, as I’m sure it happens a lot – especially with men. Here’s the story: I’ve dated this guy that was a period of 1.5 mo. Hardly enough time to get to know someone. We’ve been on a total of 3 dates; and within was obvious chemistry between us. I had a lot of fun with this boy, and by body language and conversation; we were both on the same page. It seemed as if this one could be going somewhere or at most, I was enjoying the dates and actually enjoying this guy. We did not or have not engage in any physical activity, but have kissed a few times. Then something strange happened. On our third date, he takes me to this bar which he is a regular customer and obviously women have recognize him, and with that giving me the type of look as if analyzing me up and down. I thought it was a little weird, they kept looking at him and then at me; and it seemed like that the entire night. Then he started being overly affectionate, kissing and hugging; all of that. Though the glances from other people was hardly something I’d be concerned about; I did like kissing him. Everything ended smoothly and nicely. Later on the next week, he was going on a vacation; and insisted on seeing me before he takes off. We had set a date, and half an hour before our date he calls to cancel, and his excuse was that he was not done packing. Aside from displaying my fury, I had let that one slide and ended the call with courtesy, I figured that was a valid reason; I would have done the same thing if I had fallen behind schedule. All that aside, this guy goes on a vacation and was never heard from again. I called twice and sent one email; have never responded to any of my attempted contacts. To save my pride, after the 2nd message; I never contacted him again. I had assumed the affair has ended, and that is until 2 weeks later; I’ve received an email from him. Again, he was insisting on seeing me and how much he had thought about me; which I believe is complete bullsh-t. I never responded to that first email; and that is until he has sent another one. Again, with wanting to see me, etc. I decided that I’ll only give him one more chance; or at least hear an explanation for his disappearance. I wrote him back, saying “ok” but you’d have to call me. Again, he disappears. What the hell is wrong with this guy? #1. Why bother to ask someone out when you never intended to in the first place. #2 What is his intentions? #3 Is this some sort of a sick twisted game? #4 I understand when one is extremely busy, but within 2 wks you’d make the time to call someone back if you liked them; and if that wasn’t the case, why bother to contact her again? Does this make sense?? Do you guys have a better answer?
Keara Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 #1. Why bother to ask someone out when you never intended to in the first place. #2 What is his intentions? #3 Is this some sort of a sick twisted game? #4 I understand when one is extremely busy, but within 2 wks you’d make the time to call someone back if you liked them; and if that wasn’t the case, why bother to contact her again? He probably did intend to go out with you after he asked, but figured you'd be mad at him for not calling you for two weeks... so when you ignored the first email, then said he had to "call" before you'd accept another date with him... Well, He probably figured you'd be upset at him and want to have a long dreaded talk with him about why he was out of touch so long. You went on three dates. He wasn't into you hook, line and sinker yet. And your response probably solidified that fact, so he bailed the rest of the way. Easier to disappear then deal with the repercussions of an upset woman you haven't even had sex with.
Author cynicalnlove Posted June 15, 2007 Author Posted June 15, 2007 kiera: are you a man or woman? Seems a little bias. I was already building up the conclusion that he had some sort of an ex issue. Besides i gave him the chance to call or contact; but he never took it. so when it was his turn, after weeks; did he expect for me to run into his arms?
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