Hugh_950 Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 I've always assumed that men cheat more than women because women have more virture (men having less charactor). But ... I've researched this question and I'm beginning to change my mind and I'm interested in opinions. To start with, most reseach articles I've read DO confirm that men cheat more. But I ran across an interesting article that says that men have an equal virtue and moral strength. Or conversley, women have just as many weaknesses, needs and desires as men. The major difference is that men have more opportunity. If women had equal opportinities, they would not really have a better "driving" record than men. And would be racking up just as many violations. It's simple: Men, in typical cases are going to be attracted to younger, sexier women. Not to older, experienced, successful women. On the other hand, Women could be attracted to effecacious, succesful, experienced men, even if many years older. In short, Men have a longer period of being attractive. They're sexy longer. They stay virle and pro-creative longer. Women have a shorter period of being attractive. And they're procreative for a shorter period of life. Men have much more opportunity thru life to attract a woman. Women have less opportunity thru life (only when young and sexy). So men are "attractive" to women for longer years than women are attractive to men. All that being said, I think that if women had an equal lifetime set of opportunity ... they'd be screwing around just as much as men do. Women are NOT really more moral. If they would be "in demand" say into their late 40's, 50's and 60's, as commonly as men, I think they'ed be getting into trouble just as much as men do. Any thoughts?
lonelybird Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 I am thinking if people lack of deep spiritual activities, they go shallow diversities (sleep around). But diversities really cannot overpass the sweetness of deep spiritual connection. Maybe people all try to find genuine happiness, but search in wrong places.
OpenBook Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 I don't think women are any more (or less) moral than men. I think biology, more than anything else, has been the deciding factor -- we're the gatekeepers, we have to be selective, men are biologically programmed to "spread their seed" to as many different women as possible, etc. And historically, I agree that men have had more opportunity for multiple partners than women, simply because they've enjoyed more freedom economically to do so. (Either that or we've just been more discreet about it than you are.) But uh... all that is changing. The playing field is starting to even-out for women, mainly because of three evolutionary factors - demographics, economics, and medical advances. The younger population (post-baby boomer) contains more men than women. When the supply (of women) is lower, the demand will rise, and men are starting to look around outside their own age bracket. As far as economics,... When women entered the workplace en masse during WWII, they probably had no idea what they were starting. (Thanks Mom or Grandma!!) Now women are on a more even footing economically with men than ever before. We're no longer dependent on men to live "the good life." And medical advances have enabled women to control their own baby-making machinery and take better care of themselves than ever. Men of all ages are still finding these 40-50-60 something women HOT - Demi Moore, Jane Fonda, Christie Brinkley, Cindy Crawford, Nicolette Sheridan, Teri Hatcher, Katie Couric, Lizzie60 (a poster on this forum )... the list goes on and on. So yes, I think women now have more opportunities to cheat - and less holding them back from doing so. So will they (or do they) cheat like men do? I certainly hope not. But you may be right. Time will tell. I can only hope that we'll handle it better.
Richard_J Posted June 17, 2007 Posted June 17, 2007 I tend to agree that women cheat less than men, but only because the opportunities are less for women, than for men. I'm not referring to who could get "hooked up" in a bar easier - men or women - we all know women could score higher that way. But I'm referring to the same factors as the OP here. For a serious extramarital "relationship", A MM will have a larger pool of attracted females. A MW will have a smaller pool of attracted males. Bur for a "one night stand", a MW can get anyone she smiles at, easier than a MM could do. Hell. almost ANY female could go to club and do the "come here" with her finger and a guy would go to her, he's gettin' lucky. But to get into a "relationhship"??? Not so easy for a female. Easier for a male. And the net result is that it appears that men get into trouble more than women. If it were easy for women to get what they want ... they would be cheating just as much as men.
april sunshine Posted June 17, 2007 Posted June 17, 2007 I think that as a generalisation, men and women cheat for different reasons. I have many friends, men and women, and it is my experience that usually the women 'stray' for emotive reasons, whereas the men tend to stray for physical reasons. Having asserted this opinion, I will go on to make an assumption that opportunities for physical affairs would be more prolific than opportunities for emotional affairs that then lead to physical affairs. As I have previously said, this is very much a generalisation, but it is based on several real life situations involving both men and woman whom I know personally. I also think that there is an element of 'risk balance' when a person decides to have an affair....I believe that women are less likely to risk an affair if there is not an emotional component to the relationship. The men I know who have had an affair would be more willing to cheat for a physical relationship that foregoes a meaningful emotional connection, than would the women I know who have had affairs....
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