Lunaferian Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 Well, apparently my relationship is about to come to a screeching halt less than two weeks from our first anniversary. Things have been going badly since the birth of my son four days ago. Tonight I was near my girlfriend's house, trying to get her on the phone, and crying. I've been depressed and being physically close to her and our son raised my spirits slightly, although I didn't get to talk to or see them. Anyways, after I while I was leaving, and her mom followed me and confronted me a little ways down the road. She accused me of stalking my girlfriend and said my girlfriend was calling the police on me. She began spouting out lies that my girlfriend has been feeding her, and of course when I tried to dispute them, she assumed I was the one lying. My girlfriend won't talk to me all of a sudden, though when her mom wasn't around the past two days she called me every chance she got. She hasn't officially dumped me yet, and I don't want it to end, I love her and our son with all my heart and soul, but it just doesn't seem to be working out anymore. I don't plan on moving on, I don't plan on ever having another relationship, my main goal at this point is to maintain contact with her, I've sent her some emails, apologizing, pouring my heart onto the screen, and now I'm just waiting for her to read them, and hopefully reply or call me. If I absolutely have to, I'll take legal action to have visitation with our son, but I don't want to take that course, I want her to talk to me, and reconcile our differences at least enough to willingly meet with me and let me spend a reasonable amount of time with our son. I'm looking for some advice on possible ways to reconcile, please don't respond with "It's over, move on" or "She's no good for you, suck it up, get out there and get on with your life." I don't know if these kind of responses are common on the forums, but they won't help me any. She is honestly the only person I have ever had any feelings for, and I don't want to lose contact with her...
Curmudgeon Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 I don't plan on moving on, I don't plan on ever having another relationship, my main goal at this point is to maintain contact with her, I've sent her some emails, apologizing, pouring my heart onto the screen, and now I'm just waiting for her to read them, and hopefully reply or call me. First of all, don't close the door on the rest of your life because of what's happened in the first four days post-partum. Assuming you're very young, that's just plain foolish. Ever hear of post-partum depression? It can be very real. Google it and learn something. That could be all it is. And stop listening to her mother. Assuming again that your girlfriend is a legal adult, this isn't about Mom. Finally, get up off your belly and stop crawling, whining, crying and begging. How do you think that makes you look? If nothing else will drive her away, that could. You're now a father and I would imagine she expects you to act like a man. I know this sounds harsh but desperate situations sometimes call for desperate measures. You need to stand up, get to the bottom of this and see where it leads.
Author Lunaferian Posted June 14, 2007 Author Posted June 14, 2007 I guess this thread can be deleted. Circumstances have changed, as they seem to do constantly in this relationship... Thanks for your reply, but following your advice would only exacerbate things. I left out some circumstantial information that's important to (and the main cause of) the problem, because I linked to this from my prior thread about her overprotective mother. We are not breaking up, and I'm sure after reading all the stuff I've said, some of you will think I'm insane, but I am in love... Thanks again, but I think I'm done with LoveShack... I can't really offer anyone any advice, and all I'm doing is whining about my problems to strangers, when I should be finding a way to talk them over with my girlfriend.
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