mike5770 Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 No matter what I do...no matter how hard I try...no matter what activity I try to undertake I cannot get this woman out of my mind. My world blew up 2 weeks ago and I still see her with the other guy who won! I still see mysely being a drunk idiot screwing up (see previous post)..At least you people in here had something real with your ex's...i never had anything but a few drinks with this woman and her friends on different nights and alot of bus conversations....oh how I will forever cherish those! Now I ride the bus still that she used to and I see her ghost come on the bus and I wish it was just 2 months ago...oh how I miss her like hell! And I don't care..no other woman will take her place...no other activity will make up for her...I just want her and I can't have her...story of my life..I always lose with the woman I love....I ALWAYS LOSE IN THE END!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
norajane Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 How on earth did you get so attached after only a few nights of drinks with her and her friends?? Look, you'll get past this. This was a fantasy relationship - you aren't missing what you actually had...you're missing what you imagined you could have. Open your eyes. There are other women on the bus.
Sand&Water Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 RE: You are poisoning yourself, Mike5770. This is toxic and disadvantageous. I know how you feel, though. As a woman, I can tell you: This is a complete nightmare! Your every thought about her and behavior will only cause more hurt and suffering, not only for you, but for future potential women. You have to let her go -and that means, slowing coming to terms with accepting the fact that she is with someone else. Don't think that he is, in most ways, better than you. No. You made an effort to connect with her, and she miserably failed at seeing your true loving soul and genuineness. Her loss. Believe me, IF you continue to dwell on her for years to come, at one point another woman will fall in love with you -only to find out that you still have feelings for your past acquaintance. That is a definite heart breaker. You have to do the right thing. Don't intervene in her relationships. There are other quality women out there. This is a given -women from all paths of life, with wonderful love to offer. Keep your head up -and don't look back. When you are fully ready to date, then date -otherwise don't get involved with a woman whom will eventually get hurt because of your past and current state of mind/feelings. Sand&Water
CaliGuy Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 No matter what I do...no matter how hard I try...no matter what activity I try to undertake I cannot get this woman out of my mind. My world blew up 2 weeks ago and I still see her with the other guy who won! I still see mysely being a drunk idiot screwing up (see previous post)..At least you people in here had something real with your ex's...i never had anything but a few drinks with this woman and her friends on different nights and alot of bus conversations....oh how I will forever cherish those! Now I ride the bus still that she used to and I see her ghost come on the bus and I wish it was just 2 months ago...oh how I miss her like hell! And I don't care..no other woman will take her place...no other activity will make up for her...I just want her and I can't have her...story of my life..I always lose with the woman I love....I ALWAYS LOSE IN THE END!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You lose because you compare yourself to him. You need to learn that there are many, many other women on this planet that can and will make you feel like that. The problem is you will never find her if you continue to tell yourself that you won't find someone else like her. You will. And she'll be MUCH better for you than this one. It's hard to let go. Take some time to heal. Hang out with friends. Find new hobbies, work out a lot and focus on YOU. Because if you can't figure out how to love and make yourself happy, you will NEVER understand how to make someone else happy. Cheers.
Author mike5770 Posted June 15, 2007 Author Posted June 15, 2007 thank you for all of your replies and you are all right. Today it seems silly that I even wrote that. Thanks again!
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