fray718 Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 For those who remember about the guy who let me go cuz he had an anxiety attack (I tried finding the thread but it must be gone by now), well I haven't heard from him for 2.5 weeks since I wrote him my goodbye email telling him I'm sorry that I might have given him the impression that I'm going to stick around because on second thought I don't think I'm ready to deal with the situation at hand (note that he was one who broke up with because he had an anxiety attack over our relationship, we dated 6 weeks only). Well 2.5 weeks of no contact then on sunday he emails me telling me that he agrees with my last email to him. Then he says that he misses being so close to someone, but that he was so pressured in his previous relationship. He said he wanted a friends with benefits type thing with me because he says without the pressure, its a great feeling. He says he hopes I dont think less of him cuz of this and he thought it wouldn't hurt to ask me (what the hell!). So after I read that, I just lost all respect and sympathy I had for him. When he broke up with me he told me he didnt want to drag me into his situation with his relationship anxiety and that he doesnt' want to hold me back, he wants me to be happy. Well how weak and selfish he is right now! I'm hurt. It hurts!!! P.S. Don't know if this makes any difference but I NEVER went past first base with him for the whole 6 weeks we dated. The most we did was kiss and hold hands, etc. So at least he never got anything from me before, thank god!
oppath Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 My heart goes out to you. I know how badly it can hurt for someone to say "let's be friends with benefits" when there was no context for it. My ex asked this of me after a 6 month RELATIONSHIP, one where she told me she loved me and thought I was the guy she was going to marry. WTF! 4 months later, closer to 5, I'm still recovering. I went off on her for it, and her response was "I was just joking." The disrespect and pain is great. It's the worst feeling in the world. He's an ass. Why mention that to you at all? Don't react. Don't respond. I'll never know why my ex did what she did. I never got an apology. I want one so bad. I'll never get it. Walk away knowing you deserve better than this guy.
Author fray718 Posted June 14, 2007 Author Posted June 14, 2007 My heart goes out to you. I know how badly it can hurt for someone to say "let's be friends with benefits" when there was no context for it. My ex asked this of me after a 6 month RELATIONSHIP, one where she told me she loved me and thought I was the guy she was going to marry. WTF! 4 months later, closer to 5, I'm still recovering. I went off on her for it, and her response was "I was just joking." The disrespect and pain is great. It's the worst feeling in the world. He's an ass. Why mention that to you at all? Don't react. Don't respond. I'll never know why my ex did what she did. I never got an apology. I want one so bad. I'll never get it. Walk away knowing you deserve better than this guy. I think I must have misspoken, what I meant was when he emailed me just on sunday he ASKED if i'd like to be his fwb. Before that we dated as if going towards a relatioship until he said he wasnt ready for it. I replied last night telling him I'm not interested in that type of relationship. I tried to be nice about it and told him that hopefully when he's ready he'd find a fulfilling relationship and that I wish him the best. He is a depressed and lonely person. I wrote to him because I know eventhough he was the one who hurt me, he'd still feel rejected to some extent that I wont be his fwb. I know I shouldn't care, but after all I guess he was once someone I cared about and eventhough Im hurt by what he did and said, I still wish him the best -- I honeslty do, because I know that right now he is not in the best state of mind and so I think I can be more forgiving for what he asked of me.
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