confused2007 Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 Anyone have advice for coping with a breakup caused by cheating? I can't function and I'm a mess.
Author confused2007 Posted June 13, 2007 Author Posted June 13, 2007 Let me explain I was the one who was cheated on. I guess there were red flags that I should of picked up on. She was the "needy" type. Always going out of her way to please me, never sticking up for herself - a pushover, and not arguing back. She always needed reassurance that I loved her and wanted to marry her when I finished college (6 months from now). Always wanting to cuddle, hold hands, kiss, etc. I started feeling smothered and I found it hard to always tell her that I love her. I'm just not that that open, all the time, with my feelings. I know it's kind of cold but I told her I will always love her and there's no need to say it everyday all day. I further told her if my feelings changed I would let her know. Point blank! I eventually told her I needed a break. After the break I found out that I really missed and loved her and we started over again. 2 weeks later I busted her cheating. My head was spinning, my stomach twisted, - the worst pain and confusing feeling I've ever experienced. She begged for forgiveness but I just can't bring myself to do it. It has messed me up so bad right now it's indescribable. So, once again, does anyone have any coping techniques that work when getting over their unfaithful partner? Also, I borrowed $85 from her and she wants it back. I told her she will never get the money back because she has taken so much more from me. Is that right?
funkybassplayer Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 mate do the right thing and give her back the money. I owed my ex at first i didnt want to but then i did, because she will have nothing on me, and i felt its the right thing to do. I would let her go as you are two different people, and she will always look for assurance if you dont give it, then someone else will be readily available, and you dont really wanna spend your life reasuring someone? my ex was the same and i was like you, but i always said that i loved her, and she still had to go clubbimg to get more reassurence that she was pretty etc! These girls are just trouble, and there will always be a problem of some sort. the older they get the more trouble they will become!
Lost_in_TN Posted June 15, 2007 Posted June 15, 2007 Yep, take it from me, insecure women are VERY dangerous. Most likey, no matter how much attention you showered her with, she'd have still cheated on you. That type of woman can never get enough assurance that she is loved and needed. I've been married to two of them, and both of them eventually cheated on me. Good luck with everything, and just know that you are better off without her. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
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