maay Posted June 13, 2007 Posted June 13, 2007 hello friends... yes, its me again with my never ended story. i have not been a good gilr i think. i called my ex for dinner tonight. he bring along his friend, who i know to... the moment when i see my ex, i totally give way.. all my effort gone. i still really much attracted to him!!!!! we kept the conversation light and i was have a very good conversation with his friend. but my ex just sitting there like a wall, didnt respond muc to me... i feel there is a thick wall in between us! he send me back, and stayed outside my gate for awhile after i walked in to the place, i cant tell what was he talking abt with his friend, but he didnt really talk to his friend infront of me. i felt sooooo distant! and feel terrible. i cant cope it anymore. i thought i was doing well, and i am happy lately, dating, busy working, but i realise i only have feeling for him, its so deep and so strong! i thought we could be friend, and i did keep being friendly to him, althoug i hope some miracle will happen that we can get back, but i know thats not possible. i do want to be friend, but why isit a thick wall. why do this to me... i so wanted to tell him everything in my mind, make a closure for myself.. but i don know how to anymore, donno what to say, how to make it happen, i always prolong the time to do it, just afraid that this day will come and it really stop everything, and i will totally lost him! he invited me to a short trip next weekend, with a group of his friend going out to the seas for weekend. i am thinking shd i go for this trip or shd i just stay, shd i use this oportunity to talk to him. or shd i just stop here and forget abt the closure. can help? i cant cope anymore.
Jack'a Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 I looked for closure, I begged for it... But the opportunity never came as my ex had already had her closure before the break up. Just think of it this way, if he had already moved on, what good would it do if you tell him everything that you have to say, other than showing him just how much of a mess you are without him? I wish now that I never told my ex who broke up with me about how I felt, because I made a fool out of myself by telling someone who couldn't care less about me. Be strong, try not to contact your ex.. because every second you see him, it's going to be another second you need to forget about him... now for the cold, hard facts: 1. The relationship is over 2. No point in being friends with someone you still want to go out with. 3. He has probably already moved on and see you only as a friend. 4. One person is already gone, or had enough... Or else there wouldn't have been a break up.... That's just my opinion... Closure... sometimes it's not necessary to involve the other person... all you have to do is to realize, I've done all that I can do, I've tried with all of my might and during the relationship I had given my all with nothing held back. good lucks!
passionpeach Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 I am so sorry to hear that you are still hurting. Apparently, you are not over him yet as seeing him and making friends with him still crashes your defenses down. Do not rush it. If you need a closure then do it on your own first. As long as you know for yourself that it's over then you can move on little by little although it's going to be painful. Do not be friends with him yet.. This is just temporary since you just end up getting hurt when you try. Temporarily leave him out of your world and love yourself more than anyone else. Do not dwell too much on what happened to your relationship. Rather think of plans that will make you have a better future. Be independent. Cry if you need to but do not soak on the memories you had with him. It will not be easy but you have to be brave. You can do this.
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